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Sep 29, 2011, 12:50 PM
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This is hard for me to write but I thought maybe trying to write it down will help me.
I have a problem with trust especially with friends, I did become close to someone online and we became friends and was for over 3 years, She hurt me alot, I put all my trust in her but she hurt me over and over to a point that I got fed up with it and finished the friendship, To be honest I thought I would miss her but I don't at all, I am happy without her in my life, I am not hurting anymore. Anyway I am afraid now of becoming friends with anyone, I do have friends in RL but I don't bother with them much because I am scared of getting hurt, I am here also to try and make friends but I am scared if I get hurt again, I can't let it happen, I cried so many times of my last friend because of the hurt she caused. |
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Sep 29, 2011, 02:18 PM
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buttercup, like your name BTW, trust has to be earned in my opinion. i too was often hurt by people who i had chosen to trust. what i discovered in therapy is that there are some people whose traits are not worthy of trusting. so i learned ways to decipher "good" people by what i observed about them, did they talk about others behind their backs?, were they compassionate towards others, etc. basically people who exhibited my own value system. so i sifted thru the people i knew and found those who i felt fit well with me. i do have people who i call friends but not all do i confide in, in depth. we benefit from setting healthy boundaries with people we are comfortable with. our true trusted friends, for me, have to understand boundaries too.
this a good article that may help you- Quote:
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Do not let your fire go out, spark by irreplaceable spark, in the hopeless swamps of the approximate, the not-quite, the not-yet, the not-at-all. Do not let the hero in your soul perish, in lonely frustration for the life you deserved, but have never been able to reach. Check your road and the nature of your battle. The world you desired can be won. It exists, it is real, it is possible, it is yours..~Ayn Rand Last edited by madisgram; Sep 29, 2011 at 09:18 PM. |
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Sep 29, 2011, 03:58 PM
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Hello, Buttercup. I hope you find a way to overcome your fears and trust again. Good friends are indeed a blessing.
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Sep 29, 2011, 10:17 PM
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I am right there with ya buttercup! I too have a hard time trusting anyone, I have been let down too many times. Seems like everyone has an agenda once they become your friend. Sorry I am not more positive on the subject!
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Sep 30, 2011, 07:07 PM
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Friendship can be scary and hard. :/
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Sep 30, 2011, 10:17 PM
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(((((((((((( Buttercup ))))))))))))
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