[youOme]

Be blunt, be honest.. This is what I need okay. The situation is, right after I had my boyfriend and my daughter I had an awful break out and at the ER in intense pain discovered I had genital herpes. The doc told us I could have carried the virus for years and not known and recommended we not let this end the relationship. Well, a follow up at the OB later, I tested positive for hepatitus B. I was hysterical. Two weeks before that I had gotten a proffesional tattoo. Doc said it was impossible for hep to be positive that quickly. My boyfriend was tested afterwards but he wouldnt let me in the room when he recieved his test results, he says he was negative for everything. I really believe he cheated on me. I believe he infected me, but I continue in the relationship wanting to believe Im wrong and hes loyal to me. He swears on everything and has gone to the extent of accusing me of cheating. I have only slept with him our entire relationship. What do you think? What should I do as far as acceptance?

[krazi_kristi]

is it possible you got it from someone else? a lover before him? which would clear his name if the infection is all the proof you have

[Pookses]

If that's your only evidence, I'd look at the relationship as a whole apart from this single incident. Is he generally trustworthy? Do you know any of his former girlfriends, and if so, how do they regard him? Is he open about letting you check his cell phone, or computer? Not letting you in the room is not a good sign if he had nothing to hide. If you see patterns like this, you might, unfortunately, be on to something.

[youOme]

Well, thats my issue is I dont have solid evidence other than when I was pregnant I was of course tested for everything, and was negative then a few months after shes born I wound up with the herpes and hep. He was with only one woman other then me, his ex wife, and she was the one that cheated on him and left him for another man. I dont have much to go on, I think thats why I cant take action...

[turquoisesea]

for me if i'm really upset about it I'd want to see the result of the test in the room with him. If he said he was negative for everything but is positive.... otherwise problem solved?

[krazi_kristi]

actually, you would think he would HAVE to be positive.... yall are certainly sexually active and if you have it then he has it...regardless of whether you got it from him or from some one else...

[youOme]

You know thats true, we of course sexually active on and off, and I seriously believe yall on to something. Another thing, when I was tested they gave me a copy of my results on paper but he didnt have papers. I need to see the results and your right if he lied and continued the lie this long then we are through for good. It will hurt bad... Im scared for the truth..

[CruiseAustin]

You could always ask him for the report of the test. You could say your doctor would like a copy of it. Or some other good reason???? Hmmm. Might make you feel better if you could see the official results.

[specialeffects]

YouOme,?
Hep B can be detected without symptoms. i.e. jaundice, over sleeping, lack of appetite, yellowish of eyes or skin, mild fever. If your immune system is weakened from some other primary /secondary infection,. Tattoo is with the current protocols followed now a days, less likely., But possible. Verbal consults are not out of the ordinary either. Paperwork is usually generated upon request.[ I say that as a reason why your bf has no paperwork].
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As far as a herpes virus?, I believe there is more than one actual active strain, and they are most commonly lumped into STD's as a whole.
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Best wishes as to your getting to the bottom of this , and your outcome.
Specialeffects
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p.s.
Hep C also has many variants. That you have Hep B , you now also have the anti-bodies to combat it if it further flairs.

[krazi_kristi]

i dont think trying to trick him in any way will help. you should just ask him why he came out negative when he should have it. either hes going to lie, and say it was just luck, or something;at which point you delve deeper. or he will admit to tyring to keep a secret.

another thing is, like Pookses said, is there anymore evidence of infedility? you cant go on an STD alone.

if he hasnt cheated, he could have gotten herpes from a former flame, then yall seriously did get lucky in that you only caught it after you had a child.

im not an expert on STD/STIs, but i do know that some, like herpes, can kind of lie dormant. idk whether a test would pick them up while theyre dormant, you should look into that. if thats the case, then again, it could very well be from one of your former lovers, or his, but not necessarily a current lover.

it just comes down to who caught it from who. is it possible you could have gotten from something non-sexual? like borrowing a friends bathing suit or something of that nature?

bottom line: you caught it from old flame, and it didnt get caught on tests until now.

he caught it from old flame, and you didnt get it until now.

he caught it from current partner, and is completely lying.

or you (or he) managed to catch it in a non sexual way (if this is the case, he might not be lying about being clean)

i think the best course of action would be to discuss these options (and any others you might think of) with a doctor together. he cant hide this from a professional, and you deserve the right to know. theres some privacy issues at work, but i think if you maybe talk to your doctor, he'll understand and allow you to sit in.

i hope i managed to help a little bit, im still new to this hehe. i hope everything works out the best it can.