 |
| FAQ/Help |
| Calendar |
| Search |
|
#1
Oct 17, 2011, 03:37 PM
|
|||
|
|||
|
my husband brought to my attention that he has read about open relationships and how they work. he read that it makes the relationship stronger and happier. i dont know what to think of it. hes not exactly asking for an open relationship but i guess its like having sex with a different person with my permission. i understand when u are with some1 for awhile things can get boring (sexually). he would only do it if i agree to it and i guess he would ask me b4 he would do anything and if i would say no then no it was. i dont know how to feel about it. our sex is not bad we have great sex.
i have read things about it being called polyogamus. or open marriage. i dont know what to think about it or if i agree to allowing it once almost as a hall pass get it out ur system kinda thing, will it b an open relationship? |
|
#2
Oct 17, 2011, 03:55 PM
|
||||
|
||||
|
I think a lot of times these sorts of relationships create problems in the relationship. There can be a lot of jealousy and uneasiness.
Is your husband suggesting that both of you sleep with other people or is he just asking to do it? I think you should really talk to him about this and give it a lot of thought. |
|
#3
Oct 17, 2011, 03:58 PM
|
||||
|
||||
|
If you aren't comfortable with this then don't feel pressured to. I am friends with a couple that has an open marriage and for them it works and they are very happy, they are also very open and honest with each other. It works for some but not others. I have tried an open relationship before and it just wasn't for me, I am very possive and I want to be the only person. Talk with your husband why he wants to try this, what ground rules would there be? Also ask yourself how you feel about this, imagine what it would be like and how you would feel. Your feelings are important and your husband should respect that. Best wishes to you.
|
 Anonymous32463
|
|
#4
Oct 17, 2011, 04:12 PM
|
|||
|
|||
|
he told me that if i wanted to have sex with someone else he would allow me to do so depending how he felt.
honestly i dont think am cut out for an open relationship. am very emotional and needy and insecure. i feel it would do more harm then well. i think he feels this way because hes a very sexual person and i guess the fact that hes only going to have sex with me kinda gets to him but then again i ask myself if it is considered to b an open marriage if its allowed once. i know it will not b a frequent thing. and hes not asking me to consider doing one. it was just a topic we touched but i think its something he would like to do as far as me giving him the ok to have sex with a different women. |
|
#5
Oct 17, 2011, 04:19 PM
|
|||
|
|||
|
Don't do it. Your marriage will never last. Gradually you will get bored with the "other" and get another and then who knows what kind of STD they might have? It's just not a good idea. Think real hard....do you love each other....it will lead to a lot of problems.
|
| Anonymous32463
|
|
#6
Oct 17, 2011, 04:39 PM
|
||||
|
||||
|
He's asking your permission to cheat and you be ok with it. He knows your insecurities. He wants his cake and to shag it too.
|
| Anonymous32463
|
|
#7
Oct 17, 2011, 05:54 PM
|
|||
|
|||
|
Quote:
thats exactly how i feel! ur on point. i dont understand what the point of being in a relationship is. i guess i have to really talk to him about it. ask him if thats what he wants or he just wanted to talk about it |
|
#8
Oct 17, 2011, 05:55 PM
|
|||
|
|||
|
Quote:
|
|
#9
Oct 17, 2011, 06:30 PM
|
||||
|
||||
|
Quote:
__________________
 This is our little cutie Bella  *Practice on-line safety. *Cheaters - collecting jar of hearts. *Make your mess, your message. *"Be the change you want to see" (Gandhi) |
| alliwantislove, Flooded
|
|
#10
Oct 17, 2011, 07:11 PM
|
||||
|
||||
|
Quote:
|
| alliwantislove
|
|
#11
Oct 21, 2011, 02:07 PM
|
|||
|
|||
|
I could never be in an open marriage. It would kill me...my girlfriends past is already killing me thinking about her past sexual experiences.
|
|
#12
Oct 21, 2011, 08:12 PM
|
||||
|
||||
|
i think it's more about what YOU want then your hubby. If BOTH sides of the relatioship are not ok with it, then you shouldn't do it. "open" relationships only work if both sides really want it and are ok with it
__________________
 Yesterday I was so clever, so I want to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself. |
|
#13
Oct 21, 2011, 08:26 PM
|
||||
|
||||
|
Is it possible husband is testing you to see if you want sex with another man and will be angry if you say you do (even if you don't actually do so)? Just a thought...
__________________
The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well. anonymous |
|
#14
Oct 24, 2011, 03:05 PM
|
|||
|
|||
|
Quote:
we had long conversations about it and i feel more at ease. i guess i miss understood him. the conversation itself makes me really uncomfortable to talk about but am glad we did so that we both are on the same page. it felt good being about to talk to him about it. he has said that if i want to have sex with another man he would let me (depending on who it is) he rather me do it with permission than behind his back, cheat on him. it feels wierd to hear that. although i would never think i could actually do it. its just not me |
| Reply |
This is an old thread. You probably should not post your reply to it, as the original poster is unlikely to see it.|
|
My Support Forums is the online community that was originally begun as the Psych Central Forums in 2001. It now runs as an independent self-help support group community for mental health, personality, and psychological issues and is overseen by a group of dedicated, caring volunteers from around the world.
Linear Mode
