[freespirit46]

So my best friend likes me. he is a guy. I love him like a best friend! he is amazing! he makes me laugh like no one else does, he is always so sweet and understanding, he gets me like no one else does and i feel so connected to him, i can tell him anything! i am 100% with him and have no issue in letting him see the real me, even though i always struggle with talking to most guys.. sometimes if i dont see him for long periods of time, i am depressed. he is like in love with me, but i don't know if what i feel is love or just chemistry. i don't know if i like him like that... he wants to be my boyfriend...i am worried that will ruin our relationship...or maybe it wont... im confused. i dont no what to do:P all i no, is that i do love him but im scared to lose the one person i feel like actually understands me. what if the relationship fails? or maybe it will be the happiest descicion i made... i dont no... help?

[the lone wolf]

sorta what im going through, except im in the guy's position. im afraid to lose her if it doesnt work out, and thats why i havent told her how i really feel. you've got to just trust that if you 2 are great friends then a failed relationship wont ruin that.

[tattoogirl33]

I had the exact same problem 5 years ago.. He had been my best friend for the 6 years before, always there for me, underdstood me, and was the best friend any woman could EVER have.. But he got tied of waiting on me to "come around". Just this past September he married his girlfriend of 3 years.. Broke my heart into a million pieces!

He came to see me a few days ago (we are still very close), but now I have realized I lost something that would have been THE VERY BEST thing to ever happen to me... I truly miss him and love him with all that I am.. but it's too late... Don't make the same mistake! What if he moves on without you? He's bound to find someone along the way. Are you willing to lose him for not taking that chance? Just something to think about.

[alliwantislove]

sometimes you gotta take a gamble. you abviously have feelings for him and care for him. let your guard down and relax. you will never find out if u will have a good relationship if you never try..

[Pookses]

In college, I fell in love with a friend. He figured it out and told me that he really cared about me and valued me, but wasn't attracted to me. He didn't want to shut me out, though, and said he'd always be there for me. We ran with the same group of friends, so I saw him a LOT. It was really, really hard, but I was able to transition from romance back to friendship.

We ended up being platonic roommates a few years later--he was great! He was a groomsman at my wedding, I sang at his. (Both of us got divorced, but hey, lol!) We reconnected on Facebook and I still have the best feeling about him...and got a kick out of the fact that he is in a committed relationship with -another- friend from that same circle almost 25 years ago.

Take the gamble. If you are true friends, but it doesn't work romantically, the friendship might be a little "sore" for a bit, but it will come back. Nothing better in this life than your beloved also being your best friend.

[PurpleFlyingMonkeys]

I took the chance years and years ago. I dated his best friend and he was dating my best friend. I broke up with my boyfriend but he was still dating my friend. When she broke up with him he just shrugged and walked away. When she stopped him and asked him what he was doing he told her "going over to *******s house" (sorry can't give my name)

She was so mad, I thought it was funny. She was a good friend of mine but so was he by that point and she was treating him terribly. About 2 weeks after they broke up he and I started dating. He was my best friend and it was the same way for him. We dated for 3 months and I was so shy I didn't kiss him once (besides a peck kiss for valentines day) but he still wanted to be with me. I was young and stupid and messed it up after 3 months. I broke his heart, I think I broke his heart more than anyone elses before or after him. He was devestated all 3 times I broke up with him. Eventually when he called me a "skank" it ended it for good. I was horrible to him, I wont deny it. I wanted freedom but I wanted my best friend so I toyed with him and felt terrible for so long after it. When I realized I had done irreversible damage from my games, I was devestated. I moved away anyways and we tried to reconnect but it didn't work. I never heard from him again. I talked to his friend (the one I dated before him) and he said the guy was never the same again... It's pretty sad.

He was so good to me. He treated me so well and I never thought I would find someone as good to me as he was. I thought I ruined it and was going to be stuck with jerks for the rest of my life for what I did to my ex...

It's been almost 10 years since that guy and I don't think I will ever forget about him. I wasn't romantically in love with him but he was the only guy at the time that treated me right. But almost 10 years later and I'm with someone else. Someone I have been with 2 years. Someone who is my best friend and treats me even better than the man I thought no one could ever compare to. He's now my best friend and became that as our relationship grew.

Whether they are your best friend before or during the relationship, it's a strong bond that is devestating to lose. But if it doesn't work, maybe it really wasn't meant to be and you're meant to be with someone else just as good or even better. But you will never know unless you take that jump. Best friends, romances, connections, chemistry... They fade over time, you will be lucky if you keep one non family related relationship (friendship included) throughout your entire life, you gain relationships and eventually lose them, it's the cycle of life. But you have to put yourself out there to gain them. And who knows, the boyfriend I'm with now, I'm positive he's the one I want to be with for the rest of my life now. It's the best friends, before and during the relationship, that you want to keep