[doriangray1718]

let me start by saying this has been the lonliest, and sadest week and half for me in the past two months. two months ago i had a life altering event happen to me. it was a house fire. supprisingly though, i wasnt really all that upset about it. the reason was, was because i hated the house to begin with. im not gonna get too into detail because then that would distract from the point of this thread.

even though i didnt feel bad about the actaul house being destroyed, the whole exprince did leave me a little numb. for six weeks me, my sister, and my mother were spilt up. my mom stayed with a near by neighbor,and me and my sister stayed with our dad(who i don't really like). it was pretty rough for me emotionaly living with my father.he made it obviouse that he didnt want me or my sister living there. he was very passive agressive. so you could see how lonely this made me feel. my own father was being cold and distant at a time that i needed him the most. i havent spoken two him since we'v moved out of his house and into the rental one. that was about a month and half ago.

im getting a little off topic, so i,ll get to the real stroy of this thread . so the month of september was a very isolating month for me(i was still living with my father). however, things started to look up on september 20th when i met this really amazing guy online. i didnt meet him on a socail netowrking site, which is useauly were these situations start. the frist interacting between us was when i just so happened to come a across a blog of his on wordpress. he wrote a really interesting post, so i felt like contacting him for some reason.so, i left a comment on his post saying that if he'd like to talk to me , he can email me.(you can proabully guess that i left my email in the comment as well.)

now i didnt think that this man would actaully email me back, but the next day he did. and so begins series of email conversataions, plus two skype meetings between the two of us. after the second email or so i was completely sold on him. he was proabully the smartest human being that i have ever met and seemed very kind on top of that. i told him about all the stuff that happend to me in the past year, and how it made very numb, and he didnt judge at all. actaully, he seemed like he really wanted to help me inprove my life. i grew very attach to him in a very short amount of time. but of course the winds of change had to F something up for me.

about two weeks ago we got into a slight dispute about something i sent to another user on another site.(we both have accounts on this site by the way) we both talked it over and i agreed that i was the one at fault, and we put it behind us, or so i thought. just this past week or so he's been very distant of me. now, this is a person who would email me at least four or five times a week, so to not get any emails from him is strange. the last time i talked too him was last Tuesday. he said that he was working on some projects and would not be online for as much as he used too. but i feel like something else is wrong. like he's ticked at me for some reason

this has been making me very depressed. i thought i had actually found someone who would be there for me but yet again, i was mistaken. im sick to death of not having ANYONE to lean on to. i dont have friends in the real world, my family is dysfunctional, so i feel like i really need him. and i do. how could someone how instilled such hope in me, but now be the main source of my pain? i would really love the receive some kind of friendly advice about this sittiatuion. thank you

[faerie_moon_x]

Well, it is hard to say. He could really be focused on his project and have no time. Or it could be something else. I say to maybe send him a friendly e-mail, nothing ranting or questioning. Maybe a link to something you will both enjoy or something and see if he responds.

What I do know is you must be careful with online friends. My husband is completely enamored with his online friends right now. This has made me completely alone. He spends all day with them everyday on skype in his office. I sit alone, unable to get his attention back. But, what is the outcome? He is happier with them than me and leaves me for them? Or they vanish? I've had many online friends. Most of them just disappear suddenly without warning. I did meet my husband online, he's the only one left, but he's also my real life person now (obviously.)

I'm like you. My family doesn't really pay any attention to me. I have a work friend, but only for work. No online friends, either. I also know how you feel. "This person will be here for me, oh never mind." I don't know where you live, but if you live in western culture, then people are taught to only take care of themselves and belittle others who need help.

[doriangray1718]

i just sent him a very casual email about 40 minutes ago. just asking how his week was so far and told him a little about mine. now i play the waiting game. im sorry that your husband is so distant dark heart. he sounds a little like my brother. my brother also spends about 12 hours a day playing video games with his ''online friends''. i don't think it has anything to do with you, i think it's just a personal problem your husband has. have you talked too him about it?
i don't know why it's so hard for people to be there for another person. it probably has something to do with fear. maybe there afraid if they hang out around a depressed person they can catch it? i don't know

[faerie_moon_x]

Originally Posted by doriangray1718

i don't know why it's so hard for people to be there for another person. it probably has something to do with fear. maybe there afraid if they hang out around a depressed person they can catch it? i don't know

I hope it all works out for you. I know how hard it can be. >.<

It all changed for me when my husband met his friends. He wasn't this way only 3 months ago. So, I'm playing the waiting game too.