Update on toxic neighbor...

Some people are just toxic, thrive on confrontation and controversy and arguing. I'm not at all like that, and I would compromise with the neighbor, seek out an agreement to get along if it were possible. With this person, it is NOT possible! I've lived here for about 6 years, and every interaction with this woman has been toxic, with her spewing venom! Within the past year, I started spewing back, defending myself, but I don't like to be in such a venomous relationship. Recently, I've even thought it might be worthwhile to my mental health to sell my house and move, but I have too much invested in this property to recover it financially in this housing market. Sadly, I've allowed this situation to infect my own well-being for a couple of weeks now, feeling anxiety, even panic attacks. I feel certain she intends to poison my cat, so I've kept him inside unhappily during the day while I'm at work. Recently she stood outside saying she was going to kill him. He is very unhappy and I do let him out for a few hours when I return home. (Back when we were on speaking terms, she even told me at one point that she was thinking of doing something to him, and she has already poisoned my two other cats.) I call for "Kitty" anxiously at bedtime and so far he has returned to sleep with me, but I'm concerned anytime he goes out.
So, at this point, I'm gradually getting beyond the anxiety. Realizing I have allowed this toxic person to affect me adversely.

I'm so sorry this lousy excuse for a human being is still taking up space and air and harassing you.

I saw in your other post that you called the police on her. Have you by any chance kept a diary of what's gone on between the two of you? It would go a long way in stating and proving that there are major issues here, especially if at any time you would be in court for anything.

I can think of all kinds of things to do that would make you laugh and really tick her off, but they wouldn't be very lady like so I'll keep them to myself.

Just remember to breathe slowly and deeply. Take care of yourself and let her be miserable in her own screwed up world.

I'm sorry you're going through this!!

Her and my old neighbor should get together, sounds like they have a lot in common. I also called the cops on him, after he called animal control on my 9 week old puppy for barking at him while he mowed. He then came over into my lawn, took my puppy's stake out of the ground and put her next to the road. I got out of the shower, and luckily she was fast asleep a foot away from the street, even though animal control was knocking on my door. He also has left threatening notes on my windshield and pounded on our door at all hours because we "close car doors too loudly". We have since moved, but the people who live there now had two kittens that he implied he killed. He told them "They were cute, but they just wouldn't get out from under my car...." Like both of them could be run over at the same time.

Anyways, what helped me was realizing that he was just a miserable person, and then I felt sorry for him instead of hating him. I started praying for him and even invited him to church with me. When Christmas came, I took over a ton of Christmas cookies with a note from us. Of course, it didn't change his behavior, but it changed mine and that was good enough for me!

Thank you, Lyla and Sabby!
Well, I know I've allowed myself to be victimized by this person. I DO fear for my pets, and I am keeping Kitty in the garage all day while I'm gone, though he is unhappy about it.
I really AM fearful of her, and an example: Yesterday as I came home from work and parked in my driveway, got out of the car to unload my stuff, I heard steps approaching me from the back, and I feared it was her going to attack me! It was the postman, but that shows how paranoid I have become!
I have actually erected video cameras facing toward her house, as well as a sign which reads in large red letters: 24 hour video surveillance. I think this may make her think twice before abusing my animals!