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Dec 10, 2011, 01:55 PM
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I am 21 and he is 25. We are having a relationship for about 3.5 years. Quite often he asked me to break up (never explained why), until the last time he told he was doing it because he was feeling he was 'playing' with me as long as he did not know whether he wanted to marry me or not. (he is a christian orthodox). I never talked to him about marriage, i am quite free, and at my age I do not even think abouy it. One month ago he said that if we stoped having sexoual intercourses he would feel relaxed and we would continue to be together( the last time we are together for about 5months). He said he was feeling that he does not want to look at me like a "sex tool" to be more serious with me. I said ok, lets try. We had sex because he wanted, then he said it was a mistake, and the point is he always talks to me about what he can do to me (sexoually), kinki staff and he keeps turning me on by touching me, then he leaves... It is somekind of paranoia. Now that we do not have sax i feel more like a sex tool! All of what he sais is raunchy and kinky... I do not know what to do, isn t it immature?? He sais i exaggerate that i keep asking me what he wants, he sais it is obvious he wants us to stop having sex, but is it obvious??? then why doesnt he speaks of anything else? Why he keeps on touching me??
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Dec 11, 2011, 01:00 AM
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Yes, he is being immature and no, it's not obvious that he doesn't want sex if he's talking about it all the time. It sounds like he doesn't know what he wants and he has some issues to work out. And he is making things difficult for you in the meantime. It sounds like you are being generous to keep letting him be indecisive about your relationship. I hope you are taking care of yourself well enough and not allowing him to do these things if they are hurting you too much.
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 katerinapluto
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Dec 15, 2011, 09:41 AM
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Sounds like he is playing games with your mind. I suggest reading: THe Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evans (not saying he is verbally abusive), but this book should be read by everyone on the planet, in my opinion......1 in 3 women are living with abuse.
You need to do what you need to to protect yourself....what do YOU want? |
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