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Dec 14, 2011, 03:43 PM
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Hey guys.. I wrote before about my boyfriend who cheated on me 2 weeks into our relationship. Its been over 4 months now since I gave him a second chance and I still can't seem to get over it. I don't trust him and I even took some time to think about what I wanted. I told him I wanted to move forward, but it's obviously not happening.. it feels like I'm taking steps back. I don't know what to do in the situation that im in now... there is a piece of me that has been ripped from me when he cheated, and my feelings have no longer been the same. I feel like I should leave him because there is no trust.. but I still do love him. Or... I love the man who I was with before he cheated.... and maybe that is why its hard to leave him? He says I need to stop looking at all the negative things he has done and start realizing the positive things. I feel like he is still very sneaky and I need serious advice.
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Dec 14, 2011, 04:01 PM
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If you truly can't find it in you to trust him, then perhaps you guys should take a break for an undetermined amount of time. My ex-partner cheated on my 2 and half years into our relationship, and a year and a half later, I'm only over it now. These things take time, and they're so painful to sift through because you have to face it every day, but by the sounds of things, you need you time. A chance to revaluate (again) what you need from the relationship and if it's worth the current pain you're feeling right now. Only you can make the decision if you choose to stay with him.
I really hope you discover the best outcome for you, and you find what you need. All the best. 
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“For a long time I believed the opposite of passion was death. I was wrong. Passion and death are implicit, one in the other. Past the border of a fiery life lies the netherworld. I can trace this road, which took me through places so hot the very air burned the lungs. I did not turn back. I pressed on, and eventually passed over the border, beyond which lies a place that is wordless and cold, so cold that it, like mercury, burns a freezing blue flame.” ― Marya Hornbacher, Wasted: A Memoir of Anorexia and Bulimia |
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Dec 14, 2011, 04:40 PM
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I would go with my vibes if i feel like something is going on then most likely it is....Maybe you need some time apart so you can think about things and then see where you stand in a few days. Somtimes we as men think if you allow this to happen then maybe i can do this...Give a inch take a mile...
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