[jennalynne]

I have been with my boyfriend for 2 1/2 years and I love him more than anything but he has lately been going to porn websites when I am at work and even when I am in bed. It seems to be consuming his whole life. I even caught him talking to an old girlfriend. I think he is cheating on me but I am not sure. Even if he is not cheating why does he go to these websites?? He tells me I am perfect and all he will ever want and need so why does he need to look at other girls? I use to have really high self-esteem but not anymore, now I feel like I am not good enough. I can never stop thinking about it. It is driving me crazy. I need help! I am only 21 years old and don't want to spend the rest of my life like this! Some one please help me

[bptoo]

jennalynne,

First, I'm sorry that you're having these problems, it's obviously weighing very heavily on your mind. If you haven't already done so, I'd say it's time to sit down with your boyfriend and have a long talk. Explain what your concerns and fears are. If he tells you that you are perfect and all that he ever wants, then ask him why he's doing the things he's doing. Try to be open-minded and listen to what he has to say, but make sure he understands what you feel is unacceptable to you. I'm no expert on relationships, but this is what I'd do. And remember this is a guy's point of view, hopefully a few of the ladies will have some input.

I wish you all the best and I hope everything works out

bptoo

[darkeyes]

Dear Jennylynn,
I agree with bptoo also, and that's a "woman's" point of view.
It is EXTREMELY important to have good communication between one another, I am going on 24 yrs. of marriage and believe me things can become very difficult if not next to impossible! So my advice is to have a good talk even though most men are not good at this, try it. Take care and keep in touch. Good luck
"darkeyes"