'Love' is stressing me out. Need help!

LovesShelly · Dec 18, 2011, 10:00 PM

My 'love' life is stressing me out.

Me and my friend Josh had this little thing. I thought he might have had feelings for me, but I was wrong. I asked him if there could be anything serious between use (like a relationship) and he laughed at me. He told me I was crazy for thinking that and that I wasn't his type.

My ex-boyfriend, Chris, is trying to get back together with me. We broke up after I found out he cheated on me with 5 other girls! I really do like him, but he hurt me more than he had to. It hurts every time he tells me he's sorry and that he misses me. He told me that I was the best girl he's ever had. He tells me that he loves me and wishes I would give him a second chance. I would give him a second chance, but I know how he is. After we broke up he started dating his ex-girlfriend (the girl he was with before me) only a week later!! I'm so hurt right now and I don't know what to do.
I want Chris back, more than anything, but I know he will only hurt me again. I miss him so much, and I feel like I'm stupid/weak for missing him. I don't know how to handle my feelings. Should I give him a second chance?

My ex-girlfriend, Kelly, (yes, I'm bisexual. please don't judge) is flirting with me. She will randomly act like she did when we we're dating (holding me, the way she talks to me, ect.). I just don't know. It's like she wants me back, but she says that she only sees me as a friend now. Then, she'll just start talking about when we used to date. She says that I'm the only one she'll ever date again. It's so confusing.

I just need some advice or even just a hug. I feel so confused and hurt. I don't know how to handle my situation with Kelly or Chris.

Please help me

Aslan · Dec 18, 2011, 10:04 PM

U Like your sex. Tryed being on your own for a while.

LovesShelly · Dec 18, 2011, 10:13 PM

Thank you Aslan

Aslan · Dec 18, 2011, 10:22 PM

Once a cheat always a cheat.
Guess when your young, can be difficult for guys to stay
With 1girl. Sometimes its best to meet lots of girls,
breaking hearts is not good

LovesShelly · Dec 19, 2011, 08:09 PM

Thank you Aslan,

I know that a cheater is always a cheater, but I really do miss him. I guess it would just be easier to believe that he can change. I know he won't, though. It's hard to stay strong and not go back to him

Aslan · Dec 19, 2011, 08:13 PM

what about your freinds? what makes him so irrsisstable to you?

LovesShelly · Dec 19, 2011, 08:35 PM

The way he acted around me. He was so sweet, kind, loving, caring, and romantic. He always made sure I was okay. He was the best boyfriend I've ever had.
Then I found out that he cheated on me. I'm not sure. It's just the way things we're between use before I found out he cheated on me, were so great. He was everything I've ever wanted in a man. Well, before he cheated on me anyway.
It's just hard to let go of the person I thought he was. I wish I could have the relationship back, but before he cheated on me.
I know it sounds a little odd, but that's how I think about it.

Aslan · Dec 19, 2011, 08:41 PM

I suppose hes able to get plenty of u know what,
he sounds like a charming young man, but has he been lying all the time?

LovesShelly · Dec 19, 2011, 08:46 PM

About a week after we started dating, he hooked up with his ex-girlfriend. I was in and out of the hospital for about 3 weeks, so we didn't get to see each other too much. During that time was when he did most of his cheating. When I finally got out of the hospital, I was told by one of my friends that he cheated on me most of our relationship.
I guess he was lying all the time.

Aslan · Dec 19, 2011, 08:59 PM

look at positives, u both had a goodtime,
honeymoon was great while it lasted,
your young and you have double the options of a regular person. x

LovesShelly · Dec 19, 2011, 10:24 PM

Thank you Aslan,

Yes, I guess you are right

Time for me to move on

Aslan · Dec 19, 2011, 10:40 PM

always happy to help
a beautyfull young women.
maybe santa will suprise you

LovesShelly · Dec 19, 2011, 10:52 PM

Maybe he will

Thank you again, Aslan, for helping me.

Irreplaceable · Dec 20, 2011, 01:29 PM

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Originally Posted by LovesShelly

My 'love' life is stressing me out.

Me and my friend Josh had this little thing. I thought he might have had feelings for me, but I was wrong. I asked him if there could be anything serious between use (like a relationship) and he laughed at me. He told me I was crazy for thinking that and that I wasn't his type.

My ex-boyfriend, Chris, is trying to get back together with me. We broke up after I found out he cheated on me with 5 other girls! I really do like him, but he hurt me more than he had to. It hurts every time he tells me he's sorry and that he misses me. He told me that I was the best girl he's ever had. He tells me that he loves me and wishes I would give him a second chance. I would give him a second chance, but I know how he is. After we broke up he started dating his ex-girlfriend (the girl he was with before me) only a week later!! I'm so hurt right now and I don't know what to do.
I want Chris back, more than anything, but I know he will only hurt me again. I miss him so much, and I feel like I'm stupid/weak for missing him. I don't know how to handle my feelings. Should I give him a second chance?

My ex-girlfriend, Kelly, (yes, I'm bisexual. please don't judge) is flirting with me. She will randomly act like she did when we we're dating (holding me, the way she talks to me, ect.). I just don't know. It's like she wants me back, but she says that she only sees me as a friend now. Then, she'll just start talking about when we used to date. She says that I'm the only one she'll ever date again. It's so confusing.

I just need some advice or even just a hug. I feel so confused and hurt. I don't know how to handle my situation with Kelly or Chris.

Please help me

It depends on what you want...If you want just sex, then get it from Kelly or Chris...If you want more, you won't get more...When people tell you (actions) how they feel about you, listen to them...Neither of these people are trying to be in a relationship with you...Neither of them show they are good relationship material...Especially Chris...And I will be honest with you...Chris is only telling you what you want to hear...He knows that he can get sex or whatever else it is that you give him, he can get it for free from you...This person cheated on you more than once...That alone shows you how he feels about you...And more specifically the fact that he can get sex from you with no reprecussions...Neither one of these people are winners...Chris is a serial cheater...And Kelly wants sex from you....Bisexual or not, this Kelly chick is acting like a guy...For real...She is OK with sex, but she isn't ready for a relationship...She is whispering sweet nothings in your ear but says she doesn't want a relationship...Watch out for the people who you attract in your life....These people are saying one thing but doing another...If Chris cared, he wouldn't have cheated multiple times...I don't care what he tells you, there is no excuse for that...And you asked should you give him another chance? Yea, if you wanted to get cheated on..Be smart...Look at the way people treat you, not at what they tell you...I may not know these people personally, but I've heard this same story time and time again...You will regret it if you try to make something out of nothing with these people...I can promise you that...Always tell people how they should treat you and tell them what your boundaries are...People respect you more for that...Sweetie, there are alot of men AND women out there who will treat you like a true Princess and won't give you the headache that these two are giving you...Know your worth...Be smart...

LovesShelly · Dec 20, 2011, 01:38 PM

Thank you Irreplaceable,

I don't plan to get back together with either of these two. I just needed to make sure it was the right choice. Thank you so much.

Suki22 · Dec 20, 2011, 10:11 PM

don't feel weak for wanting him back. we've all been there...but for God's sake DO NOT TAKE HIM BACK. he says you were the best girlfriend, well, that's because he got to cheat on you and you were still nice to him (even though I understand you didn't know that he was doing what he was doing). once a cheat, always a cheat. run away from him, resist every urge to talk to him. I know it's easier said than done and sometimes it's easier to have someone than not, but he is not good enough for you. if you ever feel low, just remember YOU DESERVE BETTER!

as far as the ex-girlfriend, take the hugs and cuddles if you need them, but that doesn't sound like something you want to get back into, either.

being on your own is hard but you need to take care of yourself first. when you've had a little time, look forward to someone new and exciting and don't look back. and like Asian said, you have twice the options! hang in there, girl! it'll get better, I swear!

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