[Suki22]

I've found that I've dated some very nice men that didn't have the type of issues I have (i.e. 'normal' - no pschological issues). thing is they can never deal with the ups and downs of my depression.

I have also dated a couple of guys who have issues but self medicated with pot and refuse to go to the doctor for help. I now have a strict rule about not dating pot-smokers (I think pot should be legal, etc, but I learned it's not for me and I don't want it in my life).

I guess I'm wondering if I can actually date someone normal, who will love me with my flaws or will they all be driven away? (I know that's somewhat rhetorical) Do I need to find someone else with issues along the same lines as mine to be happy or is that a recipe for disaster?

I read a lot of posts from people who state they have awesome partners who are very supportive which gives me hope...sorry for the ramble.

[Aslan]

I have always met damaged people in my life.
think people like this are outsiders.
love conqures all.

[shezbut]

We all have flaws. Some more intense flaws than others, so to speak. I believe that to the core.

I also believe that we have to be willing to accept the specific flaws of others. For instance, you are unwilling to accept pot-smokers in your private world. Perfectly acceptable to say "no" to this or that, just know that there will be other flaws that the other men will have. You both have to be supportive of each other to have a successful relationship.