[shadowdancer]

i have apparently hurt someone that i really care about. i do not know what i either have or haven't done that has made her not want to speak to me anymore, but now she apparently wants nothing to do with me. What do i do? how do i fix this? i never meant to hurt her or anything and i don't know what it is that i've done wrong. can someone help me please?

i am really really hurt and very confused. i'm even more upset that i have hurt someone who is a good friend when i never ever meant to.

any insight is welcomed.

-shadow

[Fuzzybear]

I am sorry shadow, it's obvious to me that you are a kind and gentle spirit and that you try not to hurt people.
I can only guess that maybe this person has changed, or has her own triggers that you don't fully understand...
Sometimes things just can't be fixed .... but my hopes for you are that this will... in time...
I can also relate to your post

(((((((((((( Shadow ))))))))))))))

Shadowdancer,
I'm so sorry this person doesn't see the great gift of friendship you could be giving her. And I'm sorry you are hurting.

If you have tried to contact her and got no reply-- I'd say-- hopefully, maybe in time she will come around.

Unfortunately--we can't control how others will react towards us-- we only have the power over ourselves. With that said, give yourself the power in knowing that you are a good person and didn't mean to hurt your friend. I imagine she is hurting in her own way.... and might not be ready or able to come to terms with what is going on in her own self.

****hugs**** to you and your friend.

please take gentle care of yourself!!

mandy

[sometimes]

I suggest you do nothing.

If this person doesn't like you, chances are you don't like them.

[kimmydawn]

((((((((((shadow))))))))))))) i'm sorry you're so upset. i can't imagine you doing anything so wrong that someone would refuse to speak to you. i'm sure their own issues might be playing into this as well?

regardless, i do hope it works out.

love,

kd

[curley]

I think it is strange that your friend wont speak to you, yet you have no idea why! Maybe she just thinks that you have said or done something and you have not! If she is such a good friend, why cant she let you know whats up! Maybe you could write her a letter and ask her to explain because you are in the dark.

[Lexicon78]

Maybe your friend just needs time to think about things and be alone for right now...maybe sometime down the line you could ask her what you did. You could even write her a letter if she won't talk to you.

[shadowdancer]

thanks everyone, for your advice... i can't write her or anything because she wants no contact whatsoever.

and sometimes, i do like this person very very much. if i didn't i wouldn't bother writing this post or trying to fix things with her. she is an important friend to me and hurting her was something i would never (and have never) tried to do.

hopefully she'll know that someday. thank you all for your kindness.


shadow