When do I meet him?

When will this loneliness end? When do I meet that special person?
It is taking really long now....I'm lonely...I feel very lonely....and I'm scared...very scared
I just don't want to be alone....

You don't need a boyfriend to be happy, you know.
It should be a nice addition to your life. A lot of people (I was one of them) feel like, when they have a partner, everything will be okay. It won't. It's how you make it, it's your life.

Why are you scared? Just enjoy life and the right person will come along when the time is right!

I was not ready for another person in my life until my mid-30's. Get your life on track for yourself, as ShootingStars says, the special person will show up when you are happy and involved in your own life, to make it sweeter.

Thanks guys...These are all true...but partially...I'll be 40 in couple of years and the clock is ticking....It's not just that....I feel so lonely....I don't have even a best friend here....I moved here few years back, but I have difficulty to connect to people and make a best friend....I made good friends during my education and they are still my best friends, but none of them are living here....I have some friends here, but I can call them just people that I know....They are usually not there when I need them the most....I spend most of my time alone....and that's freaky....
Not sure if this is the way....Is it harder to make friends as you get older?
I'm scared, because I don't see a family future for myself with the way that it goes....

Why don't you move back?
You could join a class you like to do, or sign up on a datingsite?

i think its harder to make friends as i have gotten older.

i'm alone and i may never be in a relationship again, but i would rather be with someone that loves me that i love than someone who is just *there* because i dont want to be alone or worse, makes me wish i was alone again!!

that's easy to say and advice, but in reality there is a reason that people move to another country or city....mostly for better life...better job...
Are you suggesting me to move back to the place that I have friends but I'll be job less?....then I will add up to my problems...besides the place I used to live was extremely cold and I had more depressed days than happy days....so I'm better to stay in California for sure as I have much less of those depressed days....

Yeah, but I couldn't know that now
Ok, then you'll have to work on social contacts there. Go to social events, gym, classes, look on forum online that has people from that area you can get to know, ...

Yes, it's harder as we get older....and I totally agree with you about not wanting to have friends just for sake of having some people around...that's why I call these people just people that I know!
However, I have that desire of having a best friend as I used to have....
Last week one of the girls who I knew had texted me that she wants to see me this Saturday for coffee....It's been two years since the last time I've seen her....I thought she has an agenda....She usually contacts when she wants to sell some products....I was wondering what it is this time since she can't hold any proper job and she's moving from one occupation to another....Guess what? I was right...She showed up on Saturday....She told me she's taking some financial courses to be a financial adviser and she wanted to hook me up with that too....

I though...

OMG...you are not a friend...you just see me as a customer opportunity...and at top of that...I was thinking why should I trust you with my finances since it looks like that I'm smarter than you....

I told her I take care of my finances by myself and I have enough resources on the internet to do my research....besides....stock is bad....interest rates are not good....what do you want to sell me then? and I was thinking if she sees a big loser on my head?

Yes, unfortunately when we get older, people who want to be our friends are looking at us as a future customers more than just a friend!

I'm socially active....I think you are very young....you don't understand me....as we get older, it's harder to make friends....yes, if I was staying in the country that I studied and had my college friends around, then I didn't have this conversation with you guys....
I go to gym...I go dancing....hiking....but....I don't find any person to make them as my buddy...as my best friend....

(((Lost Gurl)))

The harder we look to fill that hole within ourselves, the harder it is to find a fit.

I like the idea of taking a community ed class on something that you're interested in. Opportunities may pop up through that source.

What part of California do you live in? (I grew up in So Ca, but last lived in Fresno.)

Try to be patient.