[CedarS]

Blah. I just found out that this man I like a lot is married. We work together on community issues and I was beginning to hope that more could develop between us. This all in my mind, we hadn't yet even shared details about our personal lives yet. Today in a larger meeting the info came out that he is married.
I sorta feel embarassed for having been so drawn to him, but I didn't know he was married, and truly, I need to be kinder to myself. It is okay for me to like a guy and daydream about a possible relationship.
Big sigh and another waaaaaaaaah! I know that eventually there will be someone else for me, or not, no idea what future will bring. I do know however that because he is married my hands are off and energy is kept back. I would never interfere in a marriage.

[LMo]

drat! what a bummer, Sarah!

[CedarS]

A definite bummer. I think that of the two of us, this guy and I, that I'm not the only one who has felt some chemistry.

Doesn't help matters that we both have PTSD and can relate to a lot of the same things. We had one of the best conversations I've ever had about PTSD outside of a therapist office tonight. Also doesn't help that he's a very cool guy.

Oh well. I'm working to not tell myself negative things and to just keep on keepin' on.

[SleepsWithButterFlies]

I am sorry, you are so sweet you deserve a good guy

[funnygirl]

Hi Sarah

What a shame! Yes, we cannot help the chemistry thing popping up, but I agree we must steer clear of married men - for thereby lies unhappiness and strife for everyone concerned. It's a blessing that you found out in good time before your dreams grew into something stronger.

There's a good man for you out there.

FG

Sarahl, you're such a good woman. I'm so proud that you are "hands off" on the married part. That only leads to hurting all of us. I know that you and I will meet the "one" someday. Maybe we can have a double wedding....love, pat

[CedarS]

You all are so sweet, I so appreciate you all. I had me a good cry this morning and will probably cry more as I get through this. A friend sent me a post of good jokes and I actually laughed, so I'm maintaining.

I would like to state for the record though, ladies and gentlemen, that this sucks. I think I need a doggie toy to bite (preferably unused).

Pat, let's do that, double wedding! We'll find us some honest real nice men people.

I might try purposefully listening to love songs, or would that be too indulgent? I'm debating over whether to tell the guy, my guess is that he already knows, I don't think I will bring it up for now. Naturally he is continuing to be a real nice intelligent skilled guy with a sense of humor and all the rest that I want....while being married. So, no flirting at him, I'll take to flirting with trees.

Sarah

personally, i vote for dark chocolate, sappy love songs and one of those big body pillows!

[LMo]

righton, Pat!

[CedarS]

Trees can get sorta barky, tis true.

Dark chocolate solves so many ailments. Really should be distributed for free.

dark chocolate could bring about world peace.

[Lexicon78]

Sarah, I'm sorry you've been so disappointed. Yes, this kind of situation truly does suck!

My dad's single and looking!