[Claytv6633]

my ex-girl friend turned out to be like my ex-wife . a cheater .

i have the worst record with the lady's ... it seems i get hooked up with the trash that's out there .

i have never cheat on a significant other , but sever of them have done it to me . i some time's wonder if i should do as they have to me . but i'm not like that , i'm not saying that i don't look ... but looking is not touching !!! i mean ever man / women looks . it normal/natural but that is no excuse for stepping over the line .

i treat them good and do my best to not hurt them , i treat them very well . yet they treat me like **** . it makes me see why guys look at other types of relationships .

[Callmebj]

Originally Posted by Claytv6633

my ex-girl friend turned out to be like my ex-wife . a cheater .

i have the worst record with the lady's ... it seems i get hooked up with the trash that's out there .

i have never cheat on a significant other , but sever of them have done it to me . i some time's wonder if i should do as they have to me . but i'm not like that , i'm not saying that i don't look ... but looking is not touching !!! i mean ever man / women looks . it normal/natural but that is no excuse for stepping over the line .

i treat them good and do my best to not hurt them , i treat them very well . yet they treat me like **** . it makes me see why guys look at other types of relationships .

I'm sorry you have had these types of relationships. Sounds like a load to handle for a nice guy. Maybe, as you said, you are getting hooked up with the trash that is out there. You might find that you are attracting this type of woman for some reason. Hopefully your future skills
will have you looking for a better class of female. Good luck to you.

[Leed]

Hi ~ Hi have to agree with Callmebj - perhaps you're attracted to the "wrong" kind of women. Sometimes we aren't even aware of that. Some women are attracted to the "bad-boy" image, but they don't know it. Then they wonder why they get treated badly. LOL

You might want to reassess what attracts you to women -- and see if there's any pattern to it. And remember that you certainly don't want to meet women in bars and places like that. LOL

I wish you the very best. Take care & God bless. Hugs, Lee

[shezbut]

I agree with the posters above, Claytv6633.

Just curious about your last remark though. "It (the behavior of the cheating ex's) makes me see why guys look at other types of relationships."

Are you referring to purely sexual relationships? That is a possibility. However, I assume that you aren't interested in "Wham, bam, thank you ma'am" style.

The problem, I believe, lies in the type of woman you're attracting. Men and women will say whatever they believe is necessary to get what they want ~ it occurs in both sexes. You have to take things more slowly. More cautiously. Watch what the women say & do. If they say one thing, but behave another way put up a flag to watch out. Watch yourself too, because we can unknowingly be putting off signals that confuse others.

Best wishes!

[IceCreamKid]

Originally Posted by Claytv6633

my ex-girl friend turned out to be like my ex-wife . a cheater .

i have the worst record with the lady's ... it seems i get hooked up with the trash that's out there .

i have never cheat on a significant other , but sever of them have done it to me . i some time's wonder if i should do as they have to me . but i'm not like that , i'm not saying that i don't look ... but looking is not touching !!! i mean ever man / women looks . it normal/natural but that is no excuse for stepping over the line .

i treat them good and do my best to not hurt them , i treat them very well . yet they treat me like **** . it makes me see why guys look at other types of relationships .

People aren't trash. You haven't given many details, so it is hard to know why this keeps happening, but it likely is that there is a mismatch between your values and the values of the women you choose to date. Not everyone looks; I didn't when I was married; it never even occurred to me. When you say you treated the women well, in what way? If you gave them lots of material things, maybe you were really connecting with women who valued gifts over emotional fidelity? Next time, try taking the relationship very slowly and if you were giving gifts, hold off until you see what the woman's character is like. And listen closely when she tells you why her last relationship failed. You want a woman who appreciates the sentiment behind a bouquet of flowers, not a woman who requires a fancy cell phone and a sports car to allow herself to be your girlfriend.

[needfixing]

its because she's selfish and only thinks about herself, a NARCISSIST!
thank goodness she's out of your life!
sorry you had to go thru that (((hugs)))