[hurricane2011]

Hello, I am new to this board. I have been with my boyfriend for about 3.5 years. We have live together for 2.5 years. over the course of this time we have lived together, my boyfriend has grown increasingly abusive. Its gotten bad and then as usual, he has made ammends and treats me like a queen again and loves on me and sucks me back in, only to now has become so insecure and freaks over my phone, who I talk to, where I go. I have been recently layed off and am desperately looking for work. I am a great people person and try to keep my business contacts. Because some of these people are men, he is threatened by that. I found myself lying about the small things because he gets so mad at everything. He caught me in a stupid lie and said he is leaving me. Now, I feel like I got used up and now hes moving on. I dont like who I have become. Not at all. I am ashamed and feel very stuck financially.

[Callmebj]

You don't need this. He has already gotten you to doubt yourself....what will happen
if you continue for many more years...and maybe children involved. I hope he is leaving, because you need to regain some feeling of safety and sense of yourself.

It is him that is in the wrong not you, Sounds like he is very insecure, You're best out of the relationship anyway, If you can't see or talk to your friends then it is best if you do split

[Mistyblue26]

He does sound like a jerk. Naturally you will be missing him and whatnot. You guys were together for 3.5 years, so don't beat yourself up. Yes he may have treated you right at times but the other times he was being a jealous and manipulative idiot. I hope you choose to move on from him because you do not deserve that at all. Hugs from a total stranger