[sometimes]

I'm confused about my sexuality. I'm a girl. I've never had a boyfriend but i lost my virginity to a guy and i really enjoyed that. But i ran into a girl from school the other day, and i thought she was so hot. She was so cool and so open minded and so friendly and she was really eager to catch up. So i gave her my number. I think she thought i was gorgeous. And i felt the same way about her. I was even nervous, because we had a connection.

There's a guy that makes me so shy. He is so beautiful to look at that i don't know what to do with myself. But his sister is also hot. This confuses me. They look so similar it's not surprising that i'm attracted to her as well.

I may be gay, but i might also be bi. I wonder whether i am gay, but just won't let myself express that part of me, because it can be very taboo amongst narrow-minded or religious people.

I also dress and act quite differently. I have a mullet and a piercing in one ear, and i wear masculine pants and like to swear. (Just something i think is masculine)

Sometimes, i feel that penetrative sex is too intense. Gay sex is not neccessarily penetrative.

These are my issues. I'm still confused.

What do you think?

[LMo]

Sometimes,
What I think is that you should do your best not to overthink things. My personal opinion is that there is no need to label yourself as straight, gay, bi, or whatever. The label has nothing to do with the core you. In my ideal world, people would keep themselves open to being attracted to PEOPLE, not to guys or to girls. Just to people, and see where it goes.

But I don't think how you dress or how penetrative the sex is really has anything to do with your sexuality. That's just my opinion. For me, it's about who I relate to and who I want to be close with. The person, not the gender.

[jamesH]

LMo gave some good advice.

ive also wondered about myself, though nothing conclusive has come to mind yet. i think that when you let go of labels and expectations that you can better FEEL what you want, without being hindered by popular restrictions. And its not uncommon for someone to be able to admire beauty in both sexes.

[Rhapsody]

Go with the FLOW of things.... do not but undo pressure on yourself or your sex life - see what happens naturally. For in my book.... Its All Good!

((((((( HUGS ))))))) ~ ~ ((((((( HUGS )))))))

LoVe,
Rhapsody -

[Lexicon78]

sometimes, there is no reason to label yourself, I agree. If you want to know "what" you are, maybe you could go online and get some info about each orientation and see which seems more like you. That's only if you want to find out what orientation you are.

Personally you sound bi. I'm bi so I have a little knowledge. If you need to talk, just pm me.

[Overcastbutclearing]

I am 36 yo. I have embraced that I am a lesbian...but please do not misunderstand that I am still confused.
Confused that the world will not just let me love w/o there being consequences.
I am protected being a lesbian only within the walls of my home. Once I walk outside the world, with it's many opinions and views and discrimations wants to fight me.
I struggle each day...not because I am a defined woman who loves women. But...I struggle because I have to deal w/ the hatred of many peoples fears.
I don't know why it is such a big deal w/ a Free World, whether someone is gay, lesbian, straight, bi. WE have so many freedoms and yet sexuality is not one of them.

I understand the challenge to come to terms with "who you are". And, no one but your self can define your sexuality. You can question, run polls, get other people to come forth with their struggles, their outings etc.

Although I am OUT, and Proud...as the saying does go...don't for one second think each day I don't ask Why? Why me?

[sometimes]

Actually LMo, i find labels helpful. I often label things, and i don't think there is any harm in doing it. Although i do recognise that when we are not sure, we can choose NOT to lable and leave the decision 'undecided' (That may happen to be a label anyway lol)

[sometimes]

Yes Rhapsody, expectations do damage and rushing or forcing a situation gives inaccurate results.

[sometimes]

Yes overcast, it must be hard to be gay. But when you think about it, today is the time when it is easiest, compared to all other times in history, i think.

Try to be yourself and be strong!

some

[Rhapsody]

AND...................................... we want PERFECT RESULTS don't we? - hang in there.

((((((( HUGS ))))))) ~ ~ ((((((( FRIENDSHIP ))))))) ~ ~ ((((((( LOVE )))))))

LoVe,
Rhapsody -

[sometimes]

Yes, Perfect, perfect results would be lovely!

[LMo]

Labels are fine when people are older. When you're young, I think you're better off keeping all options open.

[sometimes]

Mmmmm. Maybe we will never find a label.

[downsolong]

Hi some,

I think it was in the Kensey (sp) Report ( I would have to look it up) that human sexuality was found to exist not as all or nothing and any one label but on a continuum with many variations and permutations.

In this country there is lots of discrimination against anyone who is critical of virtually any autocratically held and enforced view no matter how ludicrous or harmful. To counter such abuse of power on intellect and people, many attempt to use logic. You might find the following link helpful in your search for what you believe and like, and your right to explore, decide, and act on your decisions(which you can change as seems to fit).

http://www.americanhumanist.org/abou...al-rights.html

Hope this helps, and btw I don't understand why your poll wasn't in the relationships forum.

Tc and be well~Hugs~Down

[sometimes]

Cos my poll was just for fun