[Hanna]

Hi,
back in September, my husband and I moved to a different state and we had a realy nice Realtor helping us find the right house. And not only did he find the right house for us, I also found some things in common with him. (He is Italian, recently just married and his wife was pregnant then). On our second day of house search, we also met his wife for a view moments and she and her headed off pretty good. I thought that she is cool and could be a friend. But after we moved into our house we did not stayed in contact with them, respecting that it was more a business relationship than a friendship. I knew she would give birth sometimes in December and for Christmas I just wrote them a generic Christmas Card with a note saying to keep in touch and let us know about the baby,.. Only now, a few days ago we got a picture of their daughter in the mail with information about the baby but nothing more. I really would like to start a friendship with them, but don't know how I should start it. I don't want to call and put them in an whird situation. Any suggestions????? <font color="#000088"> </font>

[Rhapsody]

Every body LOVES to EAT.... how about you and your husband taking them out to dinner.... many good conversations happen over food.

Good Luck....

LoVe,
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[LMo]

Hi Hanna - I know how you feel because my husband and I have moved twice to new states in the last few years. What I have learned is that if I don't stick my neck out, then we're not going to make any friends. Other people are shy, and more people appreciate the efforts I make than are turned off by them.

I don't think you should feel too cautious about inviting them. Chances are good that they just don't want to impose upon YOU. Also, being busy with the baby, they might have a difficult time finding the energy to initiate a new social relationship in the evenings, and I guess her husband probably works on weekend mornings, so brunch is probably out.

How about inviting the wife over for tea one afternoon, maybe on a Saturday? But just once - if she ignores your invitation or declines it, then consider the ball in her court and move on. I do recommend http://www.craigslist.org as a great way to make friends. Most of my friends where I live now are people I met on Craigslist, under Activity Partners (bike riding for me) or people I've bought stuff from, sold stuff to, or bartered with. Also, I've heard that http://www.meetin.org is good too -- several of my friends participate in meetin activities. I've met some great friends with volunteer work that I do, as well.

Good luck! And welcome to PC!

[mpathia]

You've received some good informative reply posts. Nothing wrong with taking the first step. Chances are that right now they're probably pretty busy with the new baby. You could always ask to see the baby, right? Parents love to show off their newest...

Anyway, nothing ventured, nothing gained... Go for it!

[Hanna]

Thanks guys for all your help. I decided of going to get a congratulation card for their Baby and send it to them with a note that I want to keep in touch with them and meet the baby. If they then want to stay in contact, it's up to them. right? But that's how they know that I am interested and at the same time, I don't put them in a wired spot.
Thanks again for your support!

[Rhapsody]

Maybe send an offer (in the card) to keep the dear little one for them if they need a night out together - just for a few hours.... if you are up to it.

LoVe,
Rhapsody -