[rickmn35]

I recently went back to college after a number of years away. While in school I met someone who is 14 years younger than me that I really like (I'm 34, she is 20). I realize that some people here will say that its natural to be attracted to younger people. Even though I'm surrounded by younger students all day I'm not attracted to anyone else but her. She has a terrific personality that attracted me to her, but she doesn't know I like her. I don't know if I should pursue a relationship with her or not because of the age difference.

[likewater]

Im 39 and my bfriend is 56. It works out pretty well except he hates my it when i change the xm radio to hair bands says that' s the
s*** he used to yell at his son to turn down lol. What matters is do you have the same spiritual beliefs, financial, marital goals etc.
Good luck! Ps. What also helps are his son and daughter are still younger than me. :-) that would be creepy if they weren't.

[Irreplaceable]

Originally Posted by likewater

Im 39 and my bfriend is 56. It works out pretty well except he hates my it when i change the xm radio to hair bands says that' s the
s*** he used to yell at his son to turn down lol. What matters is do you have the same spiritual beliefs, financial, marital goals etc.
Good luck! Ps. What also helps are his son and daughter are still younger than me. :-) that would be creepy if they weren't.

Not to invalidate everything else you typed, but his situation is totally different...We are talking about someone who can't legally drink...

I personally prefer older men/women but this is personal preference. If she seems to be giving off the right vibe then i guess you could ask her out and see where it goes from there. Good luck.

[Irreplaceable]

To the poster...Go with what you feel...You never know unless you make an effort...However, be prepared for several hurtles down the line...Having a great personality is good and all, but think of the big picture...I'm 33...And while I'm not totally against dating someone younger than me, I realize that people of the opposite sex who are in a different age bracket as I, there are things in life they won't be able to relate with me on...Having a young tender who is 20? PLEASE! LOL...There is no thought process involved in the decision to fool around with someone at that age, but to have a serious committed relationship with said person may be another story...It all depends on where that person is in life...What their goals are...How mature they are...Life experiences...Again, 33 isn't too bad of a age gap...There is no harm in asking her out...Go from there...See where her head is at and decide what kind of relationship there could possibly be. Age doesn't define everything...There are men my age who I feel aren't mature enough to be with me...And at the same time, I've met younger men who have themselves together more than someone my age...Again, I would say to give it a try and see what happens....There's no harm in that...

[Inedible]

Keep in mind that a person does a lot of changing at ages 18 to 21 and again to a lesser extent at 28 to 30. You are already past these stages. As long as you are willing to let the person you are with continue to grow and change, great. The only way to find out for sure is to try it and see what happens. Otherwise you may regret not having given it a chance.

[Suki22]

when I was twenty there's no way I'd date a man in his thirties--yuck! old men!

I'd say if we were talking she was 30 and you were 45, that would be one thing but she's really still a child. she has a lot of growing to do and unless you're emotionally stunted, then I'd try and find someone more your own age. sorry if this comes off harsh, but it's just my two cents and feel free to ignore if you wish.