[Lexie82UK]

I met my boyfriend in Australia nearly 3 years ago (I'm from the UK and he's Canadian). We've done the distance thing and then i have moved over to Canada to be with him. We are living with his parents and I dont have many friends over here. The other night he broke up with me telling me he doesnt love me, has never loved me and knows its never going to develop. We're just not meant to be together. I'm now left in another country with no family, friends, looking for somewhere else to live and feeling so rejected and lonely. I cant face going back to the UK as i dont want to live there and i want to stay in Canada but now we have broken up im not going to be able to. I love him so much, he's my bestfriend and we do and have done so much together. I thought i was going to spend the rest of my life with him and loved the thought of that. I cant see myself with anyone else or ever feeling happy again. We both loved to travel but the thought of travelling without him seems so pointless. I feel totally alone and scared to death. I'm 30 years old and feel like ive lost everything.

[Perna]

I don't know why you cannot stay in Canada if you want; get a job/enroll in school, whatever is the next logical step to staying there that you want to try. It will certainly be sad dealing with the breakup but at only 30, there's a lot more life opportunities to work toward. I broke up with my boyfriend at about 30 and married my husband when I was 39 and am now 61. Life goes on and though you don't feel like you will be happy again right now, move forward as best you can and other people and experiences will show up and your life and feelings will change.

[Open Eyes]

I agree with Perna. Yes, I understand that your hurt and that is understandable. But maybe this move will end up leading you to the man that is truely meant for you. Sometimes life works out that way you know. Sometimes we can fell that we have lost something and we may not see it as a saving grace. If this guy is not in love with you, be glad that you didn't get even deeper and are married with children etc.
It could have been much worse for you.

I know its hard, but try not to look down so much, that is only going to lead to bad posture and you can forget to look forward and miss out. Perna is right 30 is still young yet and there can be a much better road ahead that you havent seen yet.

(((((Hugs))))
Open Eyes

So sorry to hear this happened to you

Are you not able to get another job in canada? Do you have some savings or any other options that would tie you over until you get a bit more settled?

You will get through this. As scary as it sounds, you've now got an exciting oppertunity to start your life over and find someone who appreciates you for you. Good luck.

[Harley47]

Hi Lexie. I am very sorry to hear this happened to you.

I know how bad this hurts right now. I know exactly how that feels. Trust me though, it'll get better in time. You just need to stay strong until you're able to move past this. That might seem like that time will never come right now, but I promise you it will. And when it does, you'll be all the better for it.

As for your new home, try to stay positive. I don't know much (anything, really) about how Canada handles immigration laws. That is something you'll have to uncover. But think of this as a new opportunity for you, a chance to start exactly how you want. There's a ton of new opportunities presented by this. You just need to seize them.

I hope I was of some help. I will be praying for you through this.