this might end up being really long...

i am currently having relationship issues...me and my bf have been together i would have to say on and off at least twice for only a few months...i am 21 and he is 40 i think that the age difference might have a lot to do with our problems but i want to work through it. this morning i guess i was snarky or *****y before he left for work and since my cell phone bill has not been paid yet he decided to call me on his mothers cell after he left to ask me what was wrong. at first i told him nothing and i got the lecture about him 'always' having to pull **** out of me so i decided just to be honest and tell him that lately i feel a little unappreciated. sure i dont work but i live in his mothers house with him and his disabled nephew. so all day when him and his mother are at work i am making sure the house stays clean and pristine and also helping his nephew with something to drink,eat,etc. and taking care of our american bulldog we adopted and the stray dog he decided to pick up and NOT? take to the shelter. i've always had trouble talking about my feelings and any problems but he doesnt make it any easier as he is the type of guy who says every statement just right so that whatever the issue is its my fault or is something i need to change. So when i told him i felt unappreciated he snapped back with "well me too! i'm the one who has to go bust my ***** at work everyday" then ended the conversation by stating "we will be talking about this later" and hung up. i then talked to his mom for a moment or two but i know she doesnt want to get in the middle of it.........WHAT SHOULD I DO? i cant stop worrying or thinking about it and dreading when he comes home...luckily she'll be home too...not that it will help much.

just stuck

You might ask him if he wants you to work outside the home or take care of the house and the nephew. He might feel your contribution isn't what he needs. also a man of his age with you as young as you are is likely a bit of a control person. I had a husband that was 6 years older and although he loved me completely, treated me like my input was unimportant on most things as to decisions. I believe I would talk to him in an objective way, and try to keep emotions out of it. Do stand up for yourself and do not be timid about what you want and need to get across.
hugs, bj