[mrb020377]

I have been friends with this girlsince i was 12. Over the years we have been pretty good friends.. She moved to the other side of the country we still kept in touch. she got married had a kid got divorced.. i have beent here for all of it....We have had our ups and downs. We have been through it all.. When she got pregnant with her 2nd child and decided to make the life changing choice to give him up for adoptions, I was about the only one that stood beside her.. So tell me why when I make a mistake, that wasnt all my fault.. She tells me that I ruined a friendship and that she never wanted to speak to me again..

Then today, i see her at a restuarant today at lunch and she comes up to me and starts talking like nothing ever happened.. this is after her threatening voice mails, her telling me that i failed to see that i had a moral obligation to her and her daughter and i didnt uphold my end, after her threatening to sue me. She ascts like nothing ever happened.....
not sure how to deal with this!!!!

my opinion..............i'd walk. she sounds extremely unstable to me and i, personally, went through a similiar situation recently. i won't trust my friend ever again as much as i did. your "friend" needs therapy, at least i believe that from your post. good luck and hang in there. continue to keep us updated. xoxox pat

[SeptemberMorn]

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I agree with Pat 200%!!!

[brianm101]

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So tell me why when I make a mistake, that wasnt all my fault.

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So what was the mistake that you made? Did you fly off the handle? I guess that I am not sure what you are trying to say.

[Christina86]

Hi mrb023077,

This "friend" of yours is either:

A) Remorseful for the way she acted (but she doesn't feel the need to apologize, which is really screwy in my opinion). If this one was the case, you could stick around. But if it turns out that she's just using you to an end, then you could wind up hurt.

B) Unstable. Plain and simple. Totally agree with fayerody on this. Walking away might be hard, but its better (I think) for you in the long run. Take care of you first.

I hope this situation works out for you.

[mrb020377]

the mistake was minor. it really wasnt a mistake more of a misunderstanding.

she is very unstable... very unstable.... my life is better with out her in it... the drama she causes is way too much for me.... calling me up int the middle of the night saying i love you have a nice life make sure my daughter is taken care of...... then hanging up...

very unstable!!!! she has problems that make mine seem like nothing...

i havent talked to her since the other day... and unless she calls me, i wont talk to her...... i dont need the heartache and pain, not do i need the stress of wondering when she will pin the blame on me for something stupid again

[Christina86]

It sounds like she (I know it sounds mean) just wants some attention, and will do just about anything to get it.

Go you for making a choice that puts YOU first!!

All the best.

[mrb020377]

i told my husband the other nigh, i have had enough of being stepped on and run over.. i am not going to take it anymore.. i am better thatn what she gives me credit for... it still confuses me.. how she thinks she can treat me like that and then expect me to be ok with it.. but now that i think about it more, it i because in the past i let her.. i always went back to her crying and apologizing for things i didnt do but she made me feel like SH** for them anyways....... guess what?? not anymore... i dont feel bad at all.. is that good???

thanks for lettiing me vent

[CedarS]

Good that you are venting and good that you are feeling some relief now that you got away from the abuse.

[brianm101]

Hi Mrb..
I would say, just get on with your life. It sounds like you are a very nice person and have a great big heart, and that someone is taking advantage of that. You don't need to deal with this(noone does). Good luck to you my friend.