My life is ruined

I lost custody of my children, I lost my apartment, I have no money to put gas in my tank therefore I lost my new job and I missed my first day of classes...as of today. I've done borrowed as much money as I can from everybody, my resources are dry now. When I ask people, "what am I supposed to do?" ...they have nothing to say.....I hate my life and I hate myself.

((((youOme)))))

I wish i could change all of that around and make your life better. Since i cant i will keep you in my thoughts.


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chalmette

((((((((((((youOme)))))))))))))))))

I'm so sorry things are bad for you right now .... please know i care ... wish i could help, just wanted to give you a big cuddle

(((((((((((((((((((((love and care))))))))))))))))))0

please keep reaching out here ... you are not alone hon ......

.....can you appeal? the decision???? Thee is ALWAYS something around the corner ...... even if things look bad right now .... please keep up HOPE ......

Jinny xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo

(((((((youOme)))))) I have been there, too, at the pit with no money or place to live...the only way to go is UP from here, and I do believe you have that coming, a better place, for you, my life has slowly turned around, for the better, better, best, up is a good, direction to go.....

I understand that horrible feeling. Sometimes we have to hit bottom in order to wake ourselves up into making changes we really never made that got us to that point in the first place. It isn't an easy place to be, knowing that we have to make changes in our life either. I know many people who have lost everything, made it again, lost it again, & made it all over again. Some things had to do with bad investments......others, like my husband's problem was credit card spending & irresponsible spending.....that was the main reason I have left him because I could no longer live around that behavior & enable his wrong thinking anymore.

When we get to the bottom, then we have to analyze where we are & set up a system to get ourselves back functioning again......the analysis part takes some time & a solution will always present itself if we are open to seeing it. The trick is being that survivor that we all have inside of us.

You can do it.....change what needs to be changed & keep the things that were good & you will find your way back to a successful life. For me, I had to add another aspect to my life....my religion had to come first in my life now, but that is a personal decision that I needed to make for me.
You are in my thoughts,
Debbie

(((youOme))) so sorry you are going through this right now.

((((Desirae)))) I know how horrible you feel, how much like a total failure, and probably absolutely hopeless. You sure have had a go of it, eh?

Now, there's a short vignette I'd like to share here...hopefully it will take the sting out of what I want to say.

In the early 20th century, two different guys went to Africa to scope out the country for a shoe manufacturer. The one guy looked at everyone and sent back a message, "Stop shipment, nobody wears shoes here.
The other guy scoped out the areas and excitedly sent a message, "Triple the order of shoes, NO ONE is wearing shoes here!" One guy felt it was hopeless, the other felt it was endless possibility.

You have truly seemed to hit bottom. You can stay there, or you can take a different look on it. You have a chance to begin again, and try to do better. Losing custody of your children, a place to live, a job are all temporary circumstances. You can change that for the future. Will it be hard? Absolutely! Will you need someone to guide you? Yes, indeed, maybe plenty of people's help. You aren't the only one who's hit bottom. I've been poor, rich, lost everything in a storm, and then well off again, mostly due to none of my own making, except this last time.

I believe in you, I believe you can learn and that you can find the strength and courage to do this. Don't give up. Have a good cry, even a pity party if you need to. Then, begin asking everyone for help and education and whatever else it is you need, and make a new future.

The missing ingredient may be that you feel you don't deserve a good future. Everyone does. This includes you, youOme.