[newby725]

I have been with my bipolar boyfriend for 5 years. He has been divorced for 15 years with no communication with the ex wife. When arrangments are made for visitation they are made through his parents. Two years ago she filed for divorce from her recent husband. Since then I have found emails to her and her family telling them how much he still loves her and wants to put the family back together. She never responded to him because she does not want to be with him. When I confront him with this he says we were fighting and I just wanted to hurt you. Well that does not make sense to me because I happened to find the emails to her by accident. Now he tells me he was just messing with her head. I do not believe him. When he goes off his medicine and starts drinking he emails all his ex girlfriends, coworkers, and single women on face book. He joins porn sites watches porn videos and sends nude photos of himself to single women he says as a joke. I am hurt and confused wondering if he really does love me or if he loves her and just uses me because she does not want to be with him. This last time he even emailed his daughter and asked why her Mom won't love him. Keep in mind the whole time he is doing this he is drunk and off his medicine. Does his true feelings come out when in this state of mind?
Please give me advice and your opinions for I am so confused and hurt right now.

[Confusedinomicon]

You need to lay down the law that he needs to stay sober or you'll leave.

This is not fair to you, at all. It is demeaning and if he respected you he would not do this.

[Irreplaceable]

What he is doing is disrespectful to both you and your relationship. I believe that people say what they mean when they are drunk/under the influence. I can't tell you how he feels about you and his ex wife. But his actions should speak louder than words...Oh hold up...I just read the part where you said he sends naked photos of himself to other women...Are you serious? Girl, leave this dude...Let me be real frank with you...All of these examples of you catching him doing things and he denies it...Yet you stay to only find other disrespectful things happen...He is telling you what you want to hear...Let me type that again. He is telling you what you want to hear...When he is caught red handed he says the words that he knows will keep you around...Because he has talked the talk before, and you stayed with him. If you stay, that means that you are inviting him to keep doing what he is doing. His ex left him and ain't looking back...You should take her que and do the same...Good luck...

How is sending out nude photos to single women a joke.... Am I missing the punch line ?

If you are not happy or comfortable, with a relationship where your partner is sending out nudes to women, emailing ex's, coworkers, and single women on facebook, then that's all you need to know. That you are not ok with that behavior in your relationship, and that you have the right to be in a relationship where this isn't happening.

I agree he is disrespecting you, your relationship, and his relationship with his daughter. He shouldn't be asking his daughter why her mother doesn't love him. Even if he was doing this to mess with the ex's head, what does that say about him? He says he was doing it to hurt you, again what does that say about him?

I would also do what his ex has done and walk away. I'm sorry you are experiencing this, I know it's painful. You have to put yourself first here. Don't let Bipolar be an excuse either, many many Bipolar's do not act like this. I have Bipolar but it isn't an excuse to hurt others.