[of-no-consequence]

i've been having problems in my relationship...it seems like since its started. we have great times together but we have ALOT of bad times and i am scared that we wont make it through. i think our main issue is trust. which i find really stupid bc most of his 'trust' issues come from the beginning of our relationship when i was ending a bad one. my trust issues with him come from sepparated instances. the one thats always in my head but we NEVER talk about bc he just gets mad is about 1 1/2 into our relationship i had to be hospitalized bc of depression, cutting. while i was in the hospital he brought his ex over to our house and had sex with her on our couch...now i didnt find out about this until months later...from her...he stil denies but knows that i dont beleive him...this one incident just keeps coming back in my mind. i just want it to go away. wth can i do to make this relationship 'work' better?
i'm just throwing this post out there mostly bc i have to get it out of my head.

[Leed]

Why on earth does HE have trust issues? Just because you were ending a bad one? Why would HE have trust issues??? I don't get it. Is he picking at straws or something?

I can certainly understand YOUR trust issues! I'd have them too! What was he thinking? What a creep! I wouldn't trust this guy either! What has he done to earn your trust back? Anything? Denying it certainly isn't a good way to earn it back especially since the girl admitted it. I don't know if this is going to work either. Trust is crucial in a relationship, and if you don't have THAT you don't have anything.

I sure hope he mans up and becomes more trust-worthy. But right now he's acting like a teenager. I wish you the very best of luck. Take care of yourself, and God bless. Hugs, Lee

[Callmebj]

I have to agree with Leed. Sounds like you are wanting to work out a relationship that
is already crushed. Him not talking about the sex with the other person...is him trying to get off Scott-free and leaving you with anxiety.
bj