my parents keep asking me if i'm alright and i'm not. what should i say? they're about to go for a holiday interstate for a couple of weeks, they planned it a while ago.

[unaluna]

oh, is that why you wanted a girlfriend by the weekend? I don't know what your circumstances are - do you live with or near them? What exactly is your condition - working or not, etc? Who else could stay with you or check on you? Is this vacation a respite for them, where they are taking a break from caretaking?

Originally Posted by hankster

oh, is that why you wanted a girlfriend by the weekend? I don't know what your circumstances are - do you live with or near them? What exactly is your condition - working or not, etc? Who else could stay with you or check on you? Is this vacation a respite for them, where they are taking a break from caretaking?

why are you making light of my situation?

[unaluna]

Originally Posted by Illegal Toilet

why are you making light of my situation?

not making light. because I asked about the girlfriend? I thought it was a plan to make sure you weren't alone. you were just trying to connect is what I thought. i'm being honest here. if you're feeling sui, you've been on this site long enough, you know the rules, call a sui site. I hope you're alright.

how come i have been here a year and you have 3000 more posts than i do.?

[unaluna]

I talk too much! and I played a few of those goofy alphrabetical games for a while, like what I found in my attic. I do spend too much time on the internet.

i have 30, 000 posts in 3 and a half years on another forum.

[unaluna]

Yowsers! this is really my first time posting regularly on any site.

i've been on this site since 1998.

Stay safe. Get help. Let your parents go on vacation if there are others who can help you.

when survival is neccesary, politeness doesn't mean squat.

[meliisa]

That's a tough situation.
My parents have cancelled 2 holidays because of my hospitaliations. Both were international holidays. First one when it was my first admission and first attempt when I was 15, I was glad they cancelled it because I was so distresed at the time. The 2nd time was last year (I was 18) and they had arranged to go to England (im in aussie land so it was a expensive holiday) for a couple months, I felt so bad that I had messed up another holiday which they had wanted to go on for years. But I needed their support at the time and am grateful that I didn't have to actually ask if they could stay. They did go away for maybe 5 days interatate late last year when I was admitted cause they knew I would be safe if I was hospitalized ( I wasn't hospitalized just so they could go away, they booked it after). They did need a break

But I don't know your specific circumstances but I think they would rather you alive then go on a holiday. Let them know were you are at and see what the options are

[gma45]

I don't think it is selfish, if you are not feeling well you should diffidently tell someone. But don't expect them to stop their vacation because of you that is selfish. I hope you are ok. expectations can not always be for filled, depends on the circumstances. It does not matter how many post someone makes it is how you deal with life that counts. I wish you well.

[nicoleb2]

Think of it this way, would your parents rather delay or cancel their trip and make sure you are safe, or would they rather find out while they are gone that you are in the hospital or worse?

it's the quality of the posts..not the number that counts....it's not a contest to see who gets the highest number in the shortest time.

to me wrong would be if you are feeling fine & then they say we are going away & then all of a sudden you say.."oh i don't feel well" in a bit of a drama queen kind of thing to get them to stay home with you...more for attention rather then out of true actual need.

if you are in actual distress that is totally different. then by all means let them know. i am sure they would rather stay & keep you safe than to get a call while they are away that something terrible happened.

& as someone else mentioned if you feel at risk now, please make a call to your dr, t or a crisis line.