[Justme_55]

My in laws are hoarders and happen to state any chance how they never judge others yet happen to be very unhappy judgmental elders. My mil will make snide passive remarks any chance she can about any topic & i have had to bite my tongue many times for the sake of keeping peace. We rarely if ever go to their home because of the conditions & smell, as well as dangers that lurk in tipping piles. Apparently they have an old family friend that is coming over today & would like us to join since he wants to see our son. I can't stand the house and the smell, not to mention the less then enjoyable people. It's not that I don't want to be nice to them it's that I'm a terrible liar & it wears on my expressions when I'm feeling distaste making them very aware of my inability to be sincere. Yet she will cry & cry about the conditions of the home & is overly emotional will cry at the drop of a hat, I've wanted to look at her & tell her to get it together!! Maybe I'll just find a way out of today's visit...not feeling in the mood.

[OreoWoman88]

I know how you feel. I have trouble being sincere also. I am very bad with words. I do not like to hurt others feelings... The only time I don't have trouble being straightforward, is in my job because in my time of business you have to be. I am a psychic, in case you were wondering. But, when comes to everyday it is not always the easiest thing to do. I know. Exactly how you feel. And, then I am such a horrible liar, people are able to look right through me. I can't even talk about anymore... It depresses me. I know how you feel.

[ebatts]

Being honest about your feelings is always the best thing to do, but if she won't listen to what you have to say, then by all means try to find a way out! Here's hoping this situation doesn't ruin your day

[Perna]

I would "drop by" on the way to somewhere else; so the friend can see your son but you have another engagement; make it so and you won't have to "lie" outright. A little planning can give you brownie points for showing up but make it so you don't have to show up so long that you find it intolerable.

[Justme_55]

We stopped by & thankfully it was beautiful outside so we were outside all day. I did listen to her same old song & dance about "cleaning the house up." it's hard because the house is filthy and I'm positive taking a toll on their health. We have all offered to help clean even get her the therapy she will need to move forward and it falls on deaf ears. I'm about to make an anonymous call to the city health & safety for their good.

[Callmebj]

Originally Posted by Justme_55

We stopped by & thankfully it was beautiful outside so we were outside all day. I did listen to her same old song & dance about "cleaning the house up." it's hard because the house is filthy and I'm positive taking a toll on their health. We have all offered to help clean even get her the therapy she will need to move forward and it falls on deaf ears. I'm about to make an anonymous call to the city health & safety for their good.

Justme, On 20/20 this last Sat, they did a special on hoarders. Yes their surroundings can make them very ill. Your in laws need some intervention and glad you are calling the city concerning them. They also need therapy on this and I'm sure you are aware and likely a team of people with the correct protective gear to clean things up. good luck to you.
hugs, bj