[ShootingStars]

Hi

I got 2 questions in one actually.
First of all, I feel clingy. Like, when I'm always there for my friends, I expect them to be there for me. Now my friend has some troubles with her boyfriend, and I have some stuff going on too (just stuff I think is quite big for me) and I'm there for her, when she texts it's about him, when she calls it's about him, when we talk online it's about him, then I'm like..why not ask how I'm doing?
I know she needs to cope with all things but I feel like I'm there for her all the time and she's accepting it without feeling the need to be there for me..
I know this sounds kinda selfish...
Problem is, that makes me think she doesn't care, which makes me think she doesn't like me anymore which makes me dramatize everything and think I lost my best friend. I hate it how I think, things like this make me think so negative, and makes me wanna be miss dramaqueen "nobody likes me" *pout*
U know? How can I stop thinking like this? We've been best friends for over a year..

Second thing is boys. I've been single for over 3 years now and I only met guys that are "in it for fun", but I'm not. I'm 22 and I'm ready to finally have a good, serious relationship with someone. I thought I met someone last year (the guy I already posted about) but he's out of the picture, I'm tired of it.
Last weekend I met another guy, he seemed into me, but now I'm like: oh, i want him to text me every day and ask me how my day was, i want him to ask me out and all that, bladibla, you know? It's like, the moment I meet a nice guy (that seems nice) I wanna jump ahead and be in a serious relationship already, without the whole dating/flirting/waiting thing.
I wanna take things slow but even now, I only met him this weekend and I think about him every day. I don't even know if he's a good guy for me or not.
I really wanna stop this..

[itsmehear]

we are simular , altho i am a 20 year old male , i have the same problems , when i meet a girl i feel as if i need to be talking to her all the time (clingy) i also feel as if there is no other girl like her .and i have had a couple women and each one gives me the impression that trhey are the one for me , and when they see that i kinda want tehm and them only , they think im getting to attached and wanna let me go , i wanna know how to slow myself down aswell .

[SSaysRelapse]

I am very unhealthy for being a codependent person in my current/now past relationship. All it does is devastate a relationship between two people. Feelings are something that can only get stronger and more genuine with time, and a healthy amount of time. Granted, I say all these things but cannot take my own advice. I hope that some of it can make sense to you, though.

The simplest, non-detailed way of slowing yourself down is, KEEP YOUR TRUE FEELINGS TO YOURSELF. If you don't like the games, play them anyway. Be distant, be the person that's unavailable and make her always wanting more, or him wanting more. Never put yourself out there, until you know you want to buy a diamond ring or want him to do so...Until you reach that point, make them work...every single day.

[Scotty204]

It's normal to want to talk and see eachother but not constantly. Personally I don't like the clingy ones and I believe in giving some space that way when you do get together you are not sick of eachother