[trustissues23]

I'm 16 years old and I've been dating my 18 year old boyfriend for a year and a half and I can't seem to trust him. He's a really great guy and has never done anything to make me not trust him. But he went off to university this year and we've been continuing a long distance relationship. Its hard sometimes but we see each other on average once a month. I've recently started not trusting him because he's been messaging other girls, nothing sexual just normal conversation. This has been bugging be a lot because I don't understand why he has to talk to other girls, makes me feel insecure about myself and our relationship. I also feel like we have a double standard, I never talk to other guys and if I do he gets upset. So I don't understand why its okay that he does it. Why can't I trust my boyfriend, and how can I learn to?

[turquoisesea]

Hey there. I think the key to trust is good solid communication. Have you told your bf how you feel about this? Even if your feelings are not something you believe "should" be there if it's bothering you maybe him knowing could help. Maybe setting ground rules would be ok. like, if he's going to text other girls you should be able to text other guys... or maybe you don't as much. It's up to the two of you.

Anyways, I hope it works out. Long distance is NOT fun at all.

[trustissues23]

Thanks for the advice, I appreciate it. But I do tell him how I feel, regularly, and those are the only arguments we have. I did tell him that I'm not going to accept the double standard and if he's doing it I will to. He always manages to find ways to ignore this statement. The trouble is, I do not want to talk to other guys, I just want us both to come to a mutual agreement that its inappropriate, but he doesn't seem to budge. So it seems like its up to me to learn how to trust him.