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Old Apr 07, 2012, 10:46 AM
iseepurple iseepurple is offline
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hey guys, Im 19
long story short, I have tis friend who has a really good friend circle, that he has been friends with since they were little .
ANd i really wan a be a part of them but i Have NO way of doing that,.
is there a way I can get over this envy? and jealousy?... cause i feel so bad
I feel like everyone has close friend ship groups but me! and its depressing.
cause they wall put photos up and i just wish i was there

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Old Apr 07, 2012, 11:33 AM
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My father was in the navy and we moved every year or two; by the time I was 21, I figured out my parents had moved 14 times! I was lucky and left a place when I was 7 and returned when I was 15, in high school but my best friend from then didn't remember when we were best friends at 5, 6, 7 years old! She wasn't like she was when we were little and there were lots of people in my high school who I'd known when I was little but I didn't know I knew them or didn't remember them, etc. (and didn't find out the extent until my 30th high school reunion).

I made a couple of friend in high school, when 17 and still have them now but we do not live near one another, only see one another ever 5-10+ years. Yes they're on my facebook page but it's not the same as their being friends, now! Make some friends now. Real friends change over time; I also have friends from my workplace 25 years ago and others from my workplace 10 years ago (I'm not retired).

When you are 19, it looks like having all these people on one's page is fun and everyone is friends but by then, people are at different schools and jobs and places in their lives and are just telling the old stories over and over, the old jokes, etc. and it's pretty hollow. It is a bit of an illusion, each one trying to believe it's still like "old times".

Makes some friends where you are, at school or work, joining local clubs/groups and volunteering. Get away from just "watching" other people on the Internet as all you have there is your imagination, kind of like imagining winning $1,000,000 and then being really dissatisfied with your own actual life and salary. Get to know yourself and what you like and work toward that in life and then when you look over the fence at what other people are doing in theirs, it will seem almost banal at times, you'll be enjoying your own life so much.
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Old Apr 09, 2012, 02:27 AM
iseepurple iseepurple is offline
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you'll be enjoying your own life so much.
wow, thank you soo much, I really needed to here that. I really need to make new friends ,I don't know how, but somehow lol

thank you for that Ill think about what you have to say.
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