[whiteroses40]

I was having a conversation with my husband the other day about his indicisiveness about life. He seems stuck and can't get out of his own head. He tried to explain to me what he was feeling but I just starred at him with a blank look. I didn't know what he was trying to tell me. I need help translating this example he gave me. He said that he feels like a "monkey who has his hand in a jar of candy. He grabs the candy but is unable to remove his clenched fist through the opening of the jar." I love my hubby but I was unable to understand this dilemma. If anyone out there knows man talk and can decipher this above example of what he is feeling don't hesitate in expressing what he is getting at. Man talk is just as hard to comprehend as women talk.

Thank you all.

Whiteroses

[Perna]

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[StrongerMan]

This is a metaphor based on a method to catch nuisance monkeys. The monkey reaches in to get the fruit and holds on even though he is trapping himself. In relation to humans, he's in a bind. He is holding onto something, let's say a comfort zone for example, that is keeping him from bigger and better things in life. If he holds on, he's stuck, trapped. But letting go means losing the thing he prizes. So he can't make a decision either way even though to others the healthy choice is obvious. Often in life we can hold onto something meaningless in the grand scheme at the cost of something even more valuable. Like taking risks. "Better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all". Many will never find love because the fear of abandonment is too great. Sorry if this rambled.