[lovemysons]

I feel so alone most of the time. I know a lot of this stems from my abuse and abandonment as a child. I don't feel loved and it's hard to open up to people. I am soooooo angry right now. I was on another forum and about two months ago, I was writing about something totally unrelated when one of the moderators reamed me and attacked me telling me I had a problem and she stayed with an abusive husband for 30 years (and she is proud of this??) and knows all about abuse and told me that I needed to get myself together and my sons were abusive. Well, I waited a day, then very carefully and respectfully replied but she attacks me on anything I say and this is why I'm here. I can't stay there.

The thing is that I became friends with another woman and listened to her petty ******** for hours and used up all my minutes. Then I come to find out that she is only friend on the forum with my nemesis but calls her all the time to encourage her. My son is the hospital and I'm a mess but she's calling this *****. Okay, I never said anything to her because it would be petty to say "If you are friends with her, then I don't want to be friends with you" but she knows what this woman has done and still does to hurt me. I am going to tell her today and I know the response. But I am going to get it off my chest.

It's so hard finding good friends. I'm a wreck. I really, really liked this woman and really wanted to be a good friend and develop a healthy friendship and I can't now. To me, if a friend is attacked by someone, you act civil but you don't go calling that person and trying to be their friend.

[ManicDad]

I know how you feel, both in feeling alone and in being miffed about your friend buddying up to someone that's hurt you like that. I too find it petty to tell friends that b/c a person is not cool with me, they shouldn't be cool with them either --- even if that is how I feel. It seems disloyal to me when a friend does that. I know exactly how you feel.

Sorry, no real advice on this one. But I can relate. I hope you're able to find new, better friends soon.

[Leed]

Bless your heart --- Seems like this "friend" was pretty disloyal to me. I could never do that to anyone. If a friend of mine is attacked, I totally defend that person! I don't befriend the attacker!

It's hard anymore to make friends -- at least I think so. People seem so busy with 'things.' Years ago, my husband moved me to a little village where a lot of his friends lived. We all became friends - or so I thought. When my husband died, they all dropped me. Guess a single woman isn't wanted in a group of couples. And since I came from a "certain" town, I'm considered an outsider in this village, so they don't accept me here. I don't know a soul now and can't afford to move.

So I understand where you're coming from. It can be tough being alone -- but after all these years, I guess I've gotten used to it. LOL
I wish you the very best dearheart --- God bless you & take care. Hugs, Lee