[faerie_moon_x]

Hello,

I am not very good at making friends. But in 2009 I had made three friends. It was a husband and wife and the (guys) brother and his best friend. They were really nice and fun people and we (along with my husband,) spent a lot of time together and had a lot of fun. I got along with them really well.

Then, after about six months, my bipolar was really bad and I just randomly stopped contacting them. My husband also stopped contacting them, probably because they were more my friends than his. Anyway, I have been regretting this for a long time.

Well, it has come down to this point where I realize I have no friends with interests like mine. I would love to have a group of friends to hang out with again. But, I would really like that particular group of friends. I haven't spoken to them in all these years, though, so that may be impossible.

Anyway, I still have her e-mail address and I am tempted to e-mail and say hello and see what they are up to. At the same time, I'm afraid to do this. I'm afraid it might be presumptuous to just randomly e-mail someone after three years. Plus maybe she doesn't use that e-mail any more. Or maybe they are upset with me...

Anyway, my question is: would it be wrong of me to e-mail someone out of the blue after three years of never talking to them? If you got such an e-mail would you be mad?

Thanks

[Leed]

Heavens NO I wouldn't be mad ! I think it would be very nice. And if you're sure there's no reason for them to be angry, go ahead and do it! I see nothing wrong with it. Would your husband be upset if you did? I mean, if you arranged a get-together with these friends, would he be okay with it?

I think it's a good idea as long as everyone got along previously. You never have too many friends. Go for it! Best of luck and I hope it works out! Hugs, Lee

[Perna]

I would e-mail or even call or stop by where you all use to hang out (if you all went anywhere). If you get in a conversation you could tell her you had some health issues (without going into detail) but now you're better and wondering what she's up to.

[faerie_moon_x]

Thank you. I have gone to the place where we used to hang out. From what I learned is they don't hang out there any more. I mean, it was three years ago, so people move on from things.

I don't know if my husband would be upset or not. He's a difficult person to judge. One one hand he says he wants me to have friends. On the other hand he gets jealous. For example, last night I had to take his mom back to the emergency room. She has a fractured rib. She had to go back because her prescription ran out and she isn't able to get into the doctor. She needs the prescription to stop her muscles from contracting and causing unbarable pain. Well, my husband said I "choose her over him" because I drove her to the emergency room and have to pay $10 for her prescription, but I asked him to wait until Monday to pay $50 for something he needs for his Call of Duty game which all of his friends have.... (There is a bill I have to pay but was putting it off due to my mother-in-laws medical emergency. We really live paycheck to paycheck....)

I mean, that's his mother! And because she has no money for this medicine until May 3, I am "choosing her over him." Now he won't talk to me this morning. Oh, and by the way, once he gets that thing, he will be spending even less time with me and more time with his friends. (Who he chooses over me most days of the week.)

So... I don't know. If I contact my old friends I can see him freaking out on me that I'm trying to cheat on him or choose them over him or things like that.