[Sapphire2012]

Hi

I'm new to this forum. I just wondered if anyone else has been on through this. I love my partner deeply but when he's going through things he just pushes me away and it hurts so much. We've had some difficult times and stuck together but when he's down he won't always let me support him as he thinks I'm doing things that I'm not, sometimes he thinks I'm being unfaithful and that God is telling him things about me etc. He's such a great guy but at other times he tells lies and chats up other women. Other times he's so supportive and loving. It's hard because I don't know if I can ever really trust him and I don't know if he's just going to leave eveytime he thinks the wrong things. Any thoughts?

[kte1177]

Having schizophrenia is not an excuse to lie or chat with other women. He may be thinking that you are doing that to him so it is okay for him to do the same. You must tell him you are not lying or cheating and you expect the same from him.

[Sapphire2012]

Thank you for your advice. He's in hospital at the moment seems to be getting back to the him I know. I have tried to reassure him that I'm still here for him and am only interested in him. He's been a lot more kind this time, the last time he was in hospital I left crying a lot of the time but he's being a lot nicer this time. I also wonder if he has DID at times as he seems to have a lot of traits but if the Dr's haven't suggested that I'm not going to assist them in giving him another label.

It's hard as a partner to really understand what's going on with him. I have anxiety which also causes me to worry even more about things. What are your reasons for joining if you don't mind me asking?

[Sapphire2012]

Thank you for your advice, bare with me I'm still getting used to this.
I have explained to him how I feel and that I'm innocent of the things he thinks I'm up to. He's in hospital at the mo because he came off of his meds. He's actually been quite nice to me this time. The last time he was do hurtful but this time he's really trying to be nice to me. Im trying to be supportive and he appreciates my efforts. I have been going there and he's been introducing me to ppl on the ward. I'm happy he is feeling comfortable enough to know I'm not going to judge him/ his new friends but at the same time I wonder if this is going to be a part of my life. Numerous visits to the hospital, putting my life on hold and always worrying when the next episode will come. I have anxiety and am trying to beat the habit of worrying. I feel the staff are a bit off with me and I don't know why.