need help. i think i am jealous of my fiance.

So where it all started. He go a number from a girl at work then started texting the other women. It was for the most part sexual messages. Well I caught him and I trust him a little more than when it happened. But I know he is texting girls and he say they are friends and I have met two out of the three but I don't like it and I have told him. I can check his phone to see who he has text because I pay the phone bill. I am feeling jealous I think of him having more people to talk too. But today he was talking to one of the two girls I have met but don't know very well. He has told me that in the pass this woman has hit on him in front of her husband. He barely talked to me and talked to his guy friends too. He says I over react and I am pushing him away. I don't know what to do. I am emotional person and I think that I am jealous of him. I know he hasn't contacted the girl he messaged sexual stuff to since it happened. He has only text friends. And a girl from work that was just work stuff he says. And it doesn't help I work in an off that has a lot of women that are divorced either. What should I do?

I try not to tell people directly what to do, but it sounds like to me that you're not secure in yourself nor are you happy with your partner's actions. To me, these are the traits of someone who really needs to be in a relationship with someone else, but only after becoming more secure in themselves.

I don't see any need to be texting people of the opposite sex when you are in a relationship, especially people you work with. When you are not at work you relate to who you are with, not everyone else, but. I don't know about trust or not, but it does not sound "polite" and wouldn't be the sort of behavior I would want in the person I was with, whether romantically related to them or not.

If your fiance was already caught texting sexual messages to a female, your fiance is the one who pushed ' you ' away. don't allow yourself to be manipulated by others, you know you deserve better for yourself so why hurt yourself by staying with them. being single would even be a step up.. but if you do decide to break off the engagement, be on your gaurd because the man will most likely tell you exactly what you want to hear - which will be only temperary. Love yourself!

I think people in relationships shouldn't be texting others of the oposite sex for fun conversational reasons. Reasons to text co-workers is for work related issues. Reasons to text an ex would be because you have kids together, so stuff for the kids only. This is especially true if trust has been broken before, which it has.

And, because your trust is broken, I do recommend having some sort of therapy. If he won't go withyou, then go alone. Advice I should have taken myself long ago.

What should you do? Tell him to stop getting females numbers. What is the point of him getting numbers? Please...

Eeeeeeexactly. He is playing mind games. I been there, done that and you won't flip this all on me. Wrong is wrong...The poster is confused because he wants her to be confused by saying what he has been saying... Taking females numbers and sexting them? Please. And you got the lady at work who has big b*lls smiling in another woman's face while she trying to get at her husband... You better watch that fiance of yours. He has already shown that he has a wandering eye...