[Lil Ant Lady]

punched me in the face and repeatedly kicked me in the head when i was on the ground, then he took off with my car and broke into my property.

hes being charged with abh, twoc, intimidation and criminal damage

hes in court right as we speak

he was so loving towards me. and i did nothing to provoke him he just got jealous and layed into me cos i had a spray tan

how do you stop loving someone instantly though?

there is no future for us but its made me an emotional wreck because i genuinely thought he cared for me

[Trippin2.0]

I'm sorry that you had to experience that from my own experience, you can't just instantly not love him anymore, no matter how badly he beat you. What you can do, is recognize and decide that you deserve better, and concentrate on loving yourself, and picking up the pieces. It's not easy dealing with such a traumatic rude awakening, the shock alone takes an incredible toll on you. Trying to switch off your feelings will only hinder the natural progression of your process. Please look after yourself and take GOOD care of yourself, you're worth it. I'm just a PM away if you ever want an understanding ear

[Stoda]

I'm sorry that happened to you. I can kinda relate, though from a different expierence. I was raped my bf and it was my first sexual expierence. It was really hard afterwards because I felt like I was supposed to hate him, but I didn't ... I still cared for him deeply. But I've found that as the healing process goes on, I'm caring less and less for him. I'm learning to see him more for what he did than what he was.

Good Luck!

[faerie_moon_x]

I'm so sorry that happened to you.

You can't just stop loving someone instantly. But, you have to stay safe and stay at a distance. As Stoda says, as time passes you'll disconnect from him.

There is a meditation I used to do with my religious group. I don't know if you're religious or not, but you don't need to be really. It was where you would meditate and imagine that you are connected to the people you know with a silver cord. For the people who were abusive to you, you would ask for the strength to sever that cord, and then imagine yourself cutting it with a scissors.

Unfortunately in life sometimes we have to let go of th people we love. As time goes on you will heal and you will find someone who really does love you. None of this was your fault.

[Onward2wards]

OMG ((( Laura ))) I am so sorry to hear that. I am glad you are safe now and working through the emotions involved.

Obviously he has serious issues to have gone off the deep end like this. It's not you, none of this was your fault, I hope you do understand that - it's his issues that caused this. Some people explode when their insecurities are triggered - horrible for those who get the brunt of it and have done nothing wrong.

[Irreplaceable]

Sweetie I'm sorry. Know that there is a man who will love and adore you so much that he would never hurt you. It hurts when the person that you love and trusts hurts you in a way that is undescribable. I don't know if you pray to a God or not. But know that God protected you from something that could have ended your life. This whole situation could have turned out so much worse. I believe that you are still upset because this just happened. But let me tell you something, I can testify and say that when things are said and done, and you have moved on with your life, you will look back and wonder how you could have loved such a person that did what he did. He is not a man. No man would ever do that.