[Mcb4]

My lack of emotions is ruining my chance of having a relationship. For months now, I haven't been able to feel or reciprocate feelings. I have sex with people, and then when they want more, freak out and ignore them or act wierd until they leave me alone. This often backfires as guys think I'm just really cool, playing hard to get, playing games or just a really trusting open girl. But in reality, I just can't feel a thing, and I can't even fake it. I cannot make emotional connections to anyone. Help, or relate?

[faerie_moon_x]

Have you spoken to a health professional about this? I feel like this is a symptom of something else. I have a very mild diagnosis of schizoid personality, for example, and I often feel disconnected from people. Or sometimes my husband says I'm acting like a zombie because I don't respond the way I should (happy but not smiling, surprised but not showing it, etc.) But I know that people who are fully schizoid do not feel the desire to be emotionally connected to people at all. This is just an example.

I don't know if it is very healthy for you (mentally and physically) to be having sex all the time, especially if it is upsetting the guys you are with. Perhaps you should take some time off from that until you find out what is happening with you emotionally. Sometimes allowing ourselves to heal, even when we're not sure what is wrong, is best.

[shezbut]

Hi Mcb4,

I can relate with what you're describing. Personally, I use sex to avoid being alone. I'm not okay with being alone, so I pretty much avoid loneliness at almost all costs. I wear different "hats", so to speak, to fit in with the man of my interest. I really do become fascinated by him & his interests ~ and then I become bored somewhere along the way.

I very often take things as my fault. So, at this point, I try desperately to push myself back into fascination again. A BIG part of me feels guilty and disgusted with myself, and another part of me is just wanting to be alone in a corner. From the outside, I appear indifferent and a million miles away, as I struggle with bringing up those intense emotions within me. I've managed to make it through negative periods of time, to have another great day. So wonderful! Then, the next day sucks. IMO, it sounds like a very similar situation ~ we just internalize it differently.

That's my perspective anyway.

[PsychGirl123]

Totally side topic to the poster above, but Dark Heart, Thank you for sharing that small bit of information about a Schizod personality. I feel the SAME way about my boyfriend that your husband feels about you. I have been so frustrated (as a female) that I have been ready to loose it. I feel like I might finally be able to find some answers now to why my boyfriend might be like this. I had never heard the term before.

Thank you, thank you, thank you.

Originally Posted by dark_heart_x

Have you spoken to a health professional about this? I feel like this is a symptom of something else. I have a very mild diagnosis of schizoid personality, for example, and I often feel disconnected from people. Or sometimes my husband says I'm acting like a zombie because I don't respond the way I should (happy but not smiling, surprised but not showing it, etc.) But I know that people who are fully schizoid do not feel the desire to be emotionally connected to people at all. This is just an example.

I don't know if it is very healthy for you (mentally and physically) to be having sex all the time, especially if it is upsetting the guys you are with. Perhaps you should take some time off from that until you find out what is happening with you emotionally. Sometimes allowing ourselves to heal, even when we're not sure what is wrong, is best.