This morning my sister in law, who is married to my husband's brother, came to visit us. She wanted to talk to my husband about his brother. She wants to leave her husband and I guess she wanted my husband's blessing.

Anyway she started to say how miserable she is with her husband because he is so abusive towards her.

My husband relpy to her was to just go ahead and leave him. That his brother was mean and abusive and self centered, that he only thinks about himself and how much she would be better without him. That he understood her completally and even went as far as saying that if his brother didn't wanted to get help for himself then to just let him die. That she was doing the right thing by leaving him and to just take care of herself now. His brother didn't deserve her.

Then she looked at me and I bet she could read in my eyes what I was thinking.

[Rhapsody]

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Then she looked at me and I bet she could read in my eyes what I was thinking.

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.............. (and) that Would Be?


LoVe,
Rhapsody -

I was thinking that what my husband was saying out loud about his brother is who he is himself.

[Fuzzybear]

I just read your first post on the thread and I was thinking the same thing (((((((((( Time0 ))))))))))

[Rhapsody]

I see....... then that would explain your husband comments....... for while they were directed at his brother at the time, he also knew the words were meant for him.... this is just the way the male mind works... they condemn another all while hating themselves for the exact same thing.

LoVe,
Rhapsody -

[Fuzzybear]

"they condemn another all the while hating themselves for the EXACT same thing"

[Jenn1fer82]

If you feel that your own husband is referring these comments to himself, what are you going to do about it then? I'm sensing that you also feel that your own husband does not treat you the way you deserve so why haven't you taken on that move to let go and move on?

Thank you dear friend!

(((((((((Fuzzy))))))))

You are probably right.

But, I don't think he sees this in himself or he denies it.

Thank you!

I did leave my husband for 2 months last year and I came back to him. Why? Pity. I can't stand seeing a person hurting in front of me. I can't stand that I am the cause of the hurt.

[Jenn1fer82]

Does it really matters if he knowlegde that he has treated you so poorly? If he had considered you as his wife why would he have treated you so unworthly like in the the first place? Do you see that this has nothing to do with your husband. Instead it has everything to do with what you believe you're worth and what you deserve? We allow others to treat us the way we think we deserve. This has nothing to do with your husband being a dishonorable man but it has everything to do with how you feel about your own self-worth. When is enough is enough? You say you can't stand watching someone hurting in front of you but when you wake up everyday and see yourself in your mirror you are looking back at your own reflection and this person is worth being happy.

Thank you sweetie! This is a great reply. One that I will think off. I already have read your reply about 10 times.