Decisions♀ Decisions♂

I cant decide whether I prefer to date men, or women....

Each kind of relationship brings its own challenges.

Dating women brings a lot of public criticism, mostly the unspoken kind.
Makes for a hostile environment while out anywhere in public... I mean c'mon, why do people have to give me dirty looks for enjoying someone's company in a romantic light? Guys always want to point it out and ask to join in. And people cast me out and I end up feeling pigeon holed into the LGBTQ label.
Personally, I dont like the label.

And of course being with men is a challenge too. I tend to be more assertive than most women. I dont like it when men I am with feel insecure about it and try to show off their balls. Like if something around the house needs to be fixed, here come's the power trip. And the problems just gets way out of hand when they realize they cannot fix (say a broken pipe under the sink). I can fix it easily but the friction and power trip...
Am I explaining that right? Men want women who are not very "manly" and I cannot just sit quietly and let a man take full leadership of the home.
Especially since I like a manly man...Plus after a while I miss women....

So I feel stuck in the middle because I want both.

Does anyone else feel this way and how do you resolve it?

I say what ever makes you the most happy is what you need to do. F**** people who think it's wrong to be a same sex couple. The way I see it nobody has any right to tell you what to do,who to be with and what makes you happy. I don't think its right for anyone to say that marriage or being in a relationship is only for a man and a women. I think those people need to say to themselves,how does what this couple does effect my life? If they get married how does I affect my life? It does not!!! So don't worry about what anybody thinks. Whenever you find that one person ( man or woman) that's makes you happy then that's what you do.

You are so right Sphinx!
I guess I do have the most trouble with that aspect of it... what other people think and the discrimination that goes with it.
A straight couple is free to just love each other fully, and grow together and marry and have a family and life insurance, and everyone knows they are together and nobody minds.
When I go out with a female, its as if the sidewalks roll up, the stores close, the government turns their back, and people become hostile about it. And all the gay bars are only open at night like under the safety of darkness, its sick.
It's really hard to walk around, especially where I live, and get dirty looks and people snickering and not smiling if I am with someone who definitly looks gay.

I wish I could just feel free to do whatever I want but it's not that easy.
I have neighbors who are openly gay, but I dont think they want to talk to me.
Im not sure even how to approach them and let them know... but it would make all the difference in the world to have a group of people, like an alliance... safety in numbers.

Why do you think the gay couples don't want to talk to you? I'll bet they're thinking the same thing about YOU! Why not just smile and say "hello?" That's a real easy ice breaker. LOL And I imagine they feel pretty isolated in your neighborhood.

I feel the same as Sphinx. It's nobody's business how people feel about each other, since it doesn't affect anyone else but the couple themselves! It infuriates me when people make anti-gay remarks, as it's only done out of ignorance! And ignorance infuriates me too, since people obviously would rather judge others before they even educate themselves on issues.

So don't worry so much about what others think. Who cares? Ten minutes from now they won't remember it anyway. God bless and please take care. Hugs, Lee

I think you should date whomever makes you comfortable and happy. It shouldn't matter if they are/aren't gay. In all honesty, that stigma for gay relationships is still there, but there is more tolerance now then ever. If you're in the US, Obama recently supported gay marriage and is paving the way for future equality between straight and gay couples.

Date who you love. Be with someone you can cherish and enjoy. Don't make yourself date anyone you don't want to because it's socially acceptable.

What you guys are saying is giving me more confidence in myself.
Even got a look from someone at work.
Almost like she can just tell.

So wierd how that is.

Date whoever is the perfect match and love for you. Doesn't matter where you meet them, either. I met my fiancee on DeviantArt and we've been talking ever since October 2011. Tomorrow will be our 1 year anni. Very exciting but I do wish I could hold her for the first time tomorrow. We have our ups and downs but we work through them. We are in a long distance relationship so fights are quite toxic to our relationship but we are working on compromising, communicating, and commiting. The right person will come along for you. Keep your eyes open! They may be closer than you think. :3