[Mindinpieces]

The reason I put this in this forum is it relates to how I behave towards others and interact with them so with that in mind think this is the right forum?

Why is it or am I the only person who bases and makes decisions on how things will effect or indirectly possibly affect other people you may come into contact with. This can be from people you know you have to come into contact with or maybe just strangers who might be there at the same time and place.

Is this just me creating another safety barrier that actually just traps myself and makes things harder? Harder in the sense of trapping you in that rut and going around in circles as a result of giving in to how you may affect another person. Or is this just sort of an everyday occurrence that has gone to over load and worry mode in my mind.

This manly come about some time ago but it’s a big part of my thinking and what gets me so upset and frustrated. It’s like no matter what way I try to look at things, the possible impact I could have on another person would result in me not doing that thing just for that reason. However sometimes I think what the hell and just do things even if they go wrong or have an impact on others because I just get so annoyed with my constant thinking should I do this or should I not do this. Although I usually regret my actions. Then that sends a message in my head of see you should never bothered in the first place because you are a horrible wrong type person who should just stay away and should not interact with the world or people around you.

[IowaFarmGal]

Not sure what you're referring to. I usually will take the long way around to avoid conflict. Though an overload of continuing BS makes me not care sometimes. What sort of impact are you talking about? You certainly have the right to ask for what you need from someone whose job is to help you. If you ordered grilled cheese and the waitress brought tuna would you send it back or just eat it so as not to bother her? Not getting what you mean exactly.

[Mindinpieces]

I still cant get why nobody understands this yet I am always at the brunt of it from people around me. Always no matter what I do I am affecting someone some way and usally this is bad or has a bad effect on me.