[Rhapsody]

I found out from my husband the other day that he has given out his gmail to a female that plays the same MMORPG that he does and that they have been emailing each other a few times, because she can no longer play the online game as much as she use to due to the fact that she has cancer is going through cemo treatment at the moment and he was just trying to be a friend to her while she was away.

Now my concern.......
I am feeling like there may some thing more going on here (like cyber flirting) and thats why they traded emails, so they can keep in touch with each other while she is not able to play and in a sense be able to talk nightly with my husband.

Does any one else feel the same way I do (or) do you think I am over reacting and it is as my husband stated, simply a friendly gesture to a sick online friend?

We have been married for 26 years..... he is 47 - I am 45

[Harley47]

Well...things like that do happen. God knows, I should know.

That aside, I'm not sure how much I'd worry unless you have a factual basis to be worried from aside from your gut, but if it bothers you, why not talk to him about it?

While not entirely relevant and more out of my curiosity, what MMO?

[Rhapsody]

Originally Posted by Harley47

While not entirely relevant and more out of my curiosity, what MMO?

I have talked to him about it - thats how I found out all the info I just shared.... and he even let me read the emails and they seemed innocent enough to me, but we do have a past (a 26 yr old past) and with me having DID & PTSD it makes it kind of hard for me to let the past go and stay were it belongs..... thats why I posted in here to get some rational feed back that doesnt have my emotional attachment bonded to it or mental health issues that I must live and deal with every day of my life /marriage.

MMO = Massive Multiplayer Online

[Leed]

Since he KNOWS it bothers you, in MY opinion I think he should STOP. I don't see why he should put you thru any more emotional pain than he has to. He's evidently done enough damage in the past -- why put you thru any more?

Tell him how you really feel. That it really bugs you, and it hurts and you can't help it, but it affects your self-esteem and makes you feel vulnerable. Ask him to please stop.

If he's got any compassion at all, and any commitment to this marriage, he'll stop doing it! And he won't do it ANY MORE either. Just my thought on it, anyway. God bless and please take care. Hugs, Lee

[Harley47]

I should have phrased that better. Which MMO is more correct. I'm an avid gamer.

But Leed gave wonderful advice that I hope you follow. I wish you my best.

[Rhapsody]

Originally Posted by Harley47

Which MMO is more correct. I'm an avid gamer.

Perfect World

[Harley47]

Ah, I'm not familiar with that one, although I do have a friend that plays an MMO by the same company.

I do hope things go well. Please feel free to shoot me a PM if you need someone to talk to. I don't mind at all.

[Confusedinomicon]

I don't see why he can't have friends and be concerned about someone else as long as he is being honest and truthful about the relationship. This may mean that both of you need to find a hobby you can share and enjoy with one another so you don't feel as threatened? You don't have to play an online game, but there are board games/card games/movie nights/etc that you can do to help cultivate the relationship. My parents have been together for about as long as you have, and they periodically do things like movie nights or cook for one another to help their relationship.

If my SO told me to stop being friends with my guy friends I'd be offended. It's like me asking him to not be friends with his female coworkers.