My boyfriend came home with a smelly penis

Yesterday i cam back from a night in scarborough. The night i was in scarborough he didnt go home to our flat. He doesnt like being on his own so usualy if im away he goes to his friends lenny. He said he stayed there and he returned in the morning to get ready for work. I dont belive him as yesterday he came back got in the bath and he proceed to come into the living room and he gave me a sign that he was wanting something. i knew what he was wanting and i went to the bed to preform oral sex but his penis smelled.. it smelled of sex or vaginal 'juice' (*sorry to be crude) ... I said it smelled of it and he said i was being paranoid and i was accusing him of it probly cos ive done it.. which i havent. I know he didnt come back due to me asking my neighbour if the car arrived in the morning, shes an early riser so she answerd my question.. It was NO... i asked him earlier if he cheated on me would he tyell me.. he replied 'well i wouldnt do that anyway'

That was NOT answering my question so i went downstairs to my neighbours for a chat. She has no reason to lie if he didnt come back and i belive her 100%

He gets angry and paranoid that im cheating if i ask him.. he has only ever had 'smelly penis' once before but i assumed it was because he was masturbating earlier due to the history on my laptop..

So im in 2 minds... is it innocent? or am i spot on?...

he has hyad history of cheating on his ex he openly told me. So i cant help but doubt him..

what would YOu think?

Thank you

D.J.R

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I guess for me regardless of whether he had or not, the fact that I doubted him would make me want to reflect on the relationship anyway.

I'm with SoupDragon ~ I'd have to wonder about the relationship, if I felt Ii couldn't trust him. What kind of a relationship is that? If I didnt have complete trust in him, it's not the kind of relationship *I'd* want. I sure don't want to be wondering all the time where he's been or where he's going. it's just not worth it.

I'm so sorry for you. I'm not in the same exact situation, but I have felt feelings similar to yours. You are only 20, right? Don't waste your precious time with this person. I read your other post where you detail how poorly your "boyfriend" treats you. He has put you in many degrading positions. It will likely continue. My tolerance for physical or sexual abuse is zero. I am unfortunately a glutton for emotional and verbal abuse though. No abuse should be tolerated, PERIOD. Geez, I have to keep reminding myself of that!! This "man" you are seeing does not know how to love, and you will not be the one to teach him. Why is it that many women (myself included) always seem to want to rescue men? I'm trying to figure this behavior out. Did you have a good father present? Mine was an alcoholic who physically abused my mother. I was too young to have any vivid memories, and my mom was brave enough to leave him while my brother and I were only 2 and 3 years old. These activities surely are buried in my psyche affecting the choices I've made regarding men. Anyway, if you were able to fall in love with this type of man, that is proof right there, that you will not be able to help him in any way. You don't have good judgment of men or you think you need to rescue him. This is me too, so please don't think I'm criticizing you. I'm just being honest. I know you are going to try and make excuses for him, and then say how good and nice he can be. I live with this, but to a lesser degree. People say this so much that sometimes we have forgotten that the message actually means something, but TRUST YOUR INSTINCTS. I believe you are spot on. He will also try to reel you back in with sweet talk, and phony hugging, but yeah, then you will feel that thing in your back again. Guess what? The selfish bastard is just horny. You should get yourself tested for an STD. I wish you the best of luck in cutting this wonderful man loose.

I think your boyfriend being smelly 'downstairs' is the least of his and your problems after reading your other post about his abuse. Sorry to be blunt, but why stay with him? He's a bully and a control freak, and him seeing other women doesnt come as a surprise..

If I were you I would not put anything into my mouth that smelled or I had ANY doubts about. You have to think about your future if he is cheating. If he is and you end up catching something then you will have to live without him but with a lovely reminder of him. And for him to turn things on you would make me even more likely to think he was cheating. I dated a cheater and didn't know but once we broke up he was willing to cheat on every girlfriend he had with me. This just let me know I made the right decision.

I don't know your history with this guy, but if you feel in your gut that you have valid reason to doubt him...you might want to reevaluate where you stand with him. I am sorry.

As far as to address the scent, it is possible I suppose that him masturbating could account for it. That does have a scent, though I find it rather....distasteful...he wouldn't shower or at least wash himself before asking you to do that.

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When you have so many things putting doubt in your head, you usually already know the answer to the question. Life is to short to wonder if your boyfriend is being shady. Follow your gut instinct....because he will never come clean to you. (no pun intended) lol

I think maybe you need a little more proof than just that. Why don't you trust him? Has he ever done you wrong before? I wish the best for you two.