[rudeawakening]

I broke after only 2 days of silent treatment. Yep, sure did, I stood there stammering and sputtering like an idiot. All I managed to do was confirm that I am not worthy of conversation. I feel so frustrated and scared and sad. I don't want to do anything but know I must do something to help myself. First, it was 2 weeks of telling me to go away. He layed in the bed day and night. I lost my temper and told him to get up and help me. He told me to not speak to him anymore and that was 2 days ago.

[Leed]

Good grief, what horrible thing did you do to earn that kind of punishment. LOL (I'm being sarcastic) My gosh, he's going a bit over-board, isn't he? I mean, I don't think anyone could do something that terrible to merit that kind of treatment, short of murder!

Is this the way he always reacts after a fight/disagreement? I think I'd get pretty sick and tired of this. Of course you're 'worthy of conversation.' He's being a big baby, and hiding in the bedroom so he can cry or do whatever it is he does in there. Maybe it's cause he's so angry, he's afraid of what he might say or do, who knows?

But if he won't even finish talking to you about it, how does it EVER get solved? Do you ever get it ironed out?

You two need couples counseling,and bad. You need to know how to commuicate, and how to "fight fair." There IS a way to fight fairly and you need to learn how. Urge him to go with you so you two don't get iinto this any deeper and someone gets so pent up with resentments, you end up splitting up over nonsense. Make an appointment for the both of you (assuming he'll go) and try to get in soon. I wish you the very best. I hope it works! God bless and take care. Hugs, Lee

[rudeawakening]

Originally Posted by Leed

Good grief, what horrible thing did you do to earn that kind of punishment. LOL (I'm being sarcastic) My gosh, he's going a bit over-board, isn't he? I mean, I don't think anyone could do something that terrible to merit that kind of treatment, short of murder!

Is this the way he always reacts after a fight/disagreement? I think I'd get pretty sick and tired of this. Of course you're 'worthy of conversation.' He's being a big baby, and hiding in the bedroom so he can cry or do whatever it is he does in there. Maybe it's cause he's so angry, he's afraid of what he might say or do, who knows?

But if he won't even finish talking to you about it, how does it EVER get solved? Do you ever get it ironed out?

You two need couples counseling,and bad. You need to know how to commuicate, and how to "fight fair." There IS a way to fight fairly and you need to learn how. Urge him to go with you so you two don't get iinto this any deeper and someone gets so pent up with resentments, you end up splitting up over nonsense. Make an appointment for the both of you (assuming he'll go) and try to get in soon. I wish you the very best. I hope it works! God bless and take care. Hugs, Lee

Thank you Leed for your insightful wisdom. I had considered counseling but never could get past how to approach him on it. Never considered just making the appointment and then tell him about it. Yes, this is how we always fight and we end up fighting about the same thing cause it never really gets resolved. I have put making an appt. at the top of my normal list which means no excuses must be done. Everything else is on the spinning to do list. I am so glad I found this site. I am feeling hopeful now at least I will know that I have tried to resolve the issue before the dreaded D word.