[laika18]

i go through fluctuations of being shy and not. I'm really getting better at not being shy i just need help w this?

whenever i start to show social anxiety and awkwardness people treat me really differently
and they want to think I'm mean or something (they hint at it that I'm probably mean)

which I'm not I'm just not so good at opening up really fast. maybe before i was really happy and outgoing and then i kind of start feeling extreme shyness again, maybe depressed over work. maybe i really want to open up but i feel like people will ridicule me if i tell them I'm depressed and have social anxiety and everything stresses me out. i don't think people want to know me for reals...Also my JOB if anything makes me stressed out not people. i am not a drama ***** or anything. i wish my new girlfriends would trust me (i just moved)

why should i give them that kind of information when it just makes me a downer
i mean people want to know me i guess, maybe i talk too much and don't listen i don't know
i thought i did i always try to be interested in everybody but nobody ever tells me if I'm not doing it enough

lemme know? I'm confused...

[Trippin2.0]

I met 2 new people very recently,about a month or 2 ago, and they just came out an told me right away that they're shy made our interactions easier. I'm naturally an extrovert, so I know that sometimes I have to lead the convo or change the topic. The 1 guy, at work, sometimes him chatty, others not. I don't mind either way. The other, he's actually my brother's friend. We talked all night once, just me and him, and I got to know quite a bit about him without him having to go into much detail. And it made me realize that he probably does have some anxiety and depression going on, even tho he only actually divulged his ADHD dx. Sorry to ramble. Guess I just meant to say, you don't have to divulge your dx, saying your shy, is good enough. IMO anyway good luck, and sorry if I was of no help, I can't really relate to shy, altho I try bcoz my daughter is quite the shy girl

[sarek]

I think I know what you mean. I am a socially anxious and shy introverted person and quite often I just dont't want to talk at all or even find the company of people stressful.

This is so easily misinterpreted as being grumpy or angry or perhaps having an antipathy for them.

So you could perhaps trying to explain that to them. You don't have to be a downer if you tell them this.