[Jenn1fer82]

My friend Ray is acting the matchmaker and introduce his good friend to me and we've been chatting for about a week now. I thought I was ready and excited to date again but now I am so scared.

Its been a year since I've been on a date. I haven't talked to another man since my last relationship that took everything from me. So I decided to give online dating a try and that went no where. So my friend Ray thought his friend Tony and I would be a good match to get to know one another.

So far things are going good between Tony and I. We've only instant messaged and text one another. Its been a week and we've communicated this way everyday for hours on end. We've connected and gotten close to where now he's going to join me to being my jogging partner for my first 5k run/walk event.

So I thought I was ready and now he's talking about a place for us to go out to eat and meet one another and I am so scared. I'm already having thoughts of backing out. Please help me ease my mind.

[beauflow]

Ya never know till you meet Tony if you really like him, Texting and Instant messaging can only be so much--- and hey maybe you will and even if things don't get to that "match maker" idea, well you went out and meet someone new

If this was a set up by a good friend of yours (Ray) and he knows how you were with your last relationship (which I would imagine that was painful with what you have wrote) I think your friend would have your best interest out for you if he is a good friend (you would have to answer that ) I hope he is by the way.

Best of luck.

Positive and good thoughts your way

OH- and I would think if you had a bad break up with your last guy, and took a long term break from dating-- I would imagine that would leave butterflies in your tummy when getting back out there--- BUT in Truth- Only you can really answer if you are ready to go back out and try again with dating.

[Jenn1fer82]

Originally Posted by Jenn1fer82

My friend Ray is acting the matchmaker and introduce his good friend to me and we've been chatting for about a week now. I thought I was ready and excited to date again but now I am so scared.

Its been a year since I've been on a date. I haven't talked to another man since my last relationship that took everything from me. So I decided to give online dating a try and that went no where. So my friend Ray thought his friend Tony and I would be a good match to get to know one another.

So far things are going good between Tony and I. We've only instant messaged and text one another. Its been a week and we've communicated this way everyday for hours on end. We've connected and gotten close to where now he's going to join me to being my jogging partner for my first 5k run/walk event.

So I thought I was ready and now he's talking about a place for us to go out to eat and meet one another and I am so scared. I'm already having thoughts of backing out. Please help me ease my mind.

Just to add I am also 30 years old. Is there this expectation on me because of my age that dating should be easier and I am suppose to have more confidence by this time?

[dailyhealing]

I don't know about expectations due to age, but my own opinion is we are who we are and that is okay. If you struggle with dating and don't have confidence then that is all right. And if you just aren't ready that is okay also. You have to do what is best for you. Does your friend who set this up know that you are anxious and lacking confidence right now with dating? Whatever you decide is fine, and I hope you will let us know what you do decide and how you are doing either way.

[doggiedo]

It's natural to be nervous, even if u dated a week ago, let alone a year ago. I say give it a try- what do u have to lose? Good luck

Hi ((((Jenn))))

It sounds as if you have a really good friend in Ray.

Perhaps instead of thinking of this as a date (Tony The Date), you can think of it as meeting a new friend or finding a new running partner (that comes with credentials).

(*you can even express that in your next text / email to Tony somehow, lightheartedly, to take some of the pressure off of the situation).

Other than the obvious (dating is totally nerve-wracking) and getting over a severly broken heart (does Tony know this?) ... is there something about Tony that makes you nervous / scared / is intimidating? Is he the same age?

(*My ex and I were friends for a year before I even knew he had a crush on me (*rather, that I NOTICED he had a crush on me). When we met, I had just lost my finance in a boating accident. I told him from the start that I wasn't ready yet for anything and I couldn't imagine EVER falling in love again.

hah! joke on me...We were together for almost 10 years! He was my best friend...first...it was a bonus that everything else happened)

Best wishes!
Rose