[whoknows66]

hi.... here is a little bit of my story that happened about a month ago.
When i was in elementary school i met a boy and i liked him a lot. i was like 13 years old and he was 14.....we end up spliting cause we both moved away.....for 33 years he was in my heart and i was thinking that one day i would see him again. He was my dream boy......after 33 years i met him on facebook....that is last year.....he was single and i was single.We decided to meet and we had a long distance relationship. It was ok......we did argue a lot but i was thinking that maybe he would grow up.
we seen each other for about one year and we decided to get married on the 24th june/2012. I was so happy to meet him again and marrying the man of my dream. Well......on the day of our wedding...one hour after the vows were said.....he left me. .in front of everybody...his family and my family........I am so devastated.....so....sad....so hurt......I dont know what to think...what to do........a family feud started and he took his familys side and he said i broke up the wedding.......no......he broke up the wedding by asking me to give him back the ring multiple time.
I tried to reconcile......but it doesnt seem to work....I am broken......thats all i see in my mind...it is that day......that day was a special and precious day for me.....the only day i was waiting for.....I am so hurt.what should i do......!....I cant get on with my life still knowing that i am married to this man.....Please give me some advice.

[cowgirlupla]

Im sorry to hear what you are going through
Sometimes the one we think is who is right for is really isn't at all
Sounds like you are in fantasy life and not real life.
He isn't the one for you. If he was, you wouldnt argue a lot.

Good luck and move on. You desearve better.

[Leed]

What in the WORLD started this? WHY did he leave you? What reason did he give? Did you have a fight? I don't understand!!

An HOUR after the wedding he LEAVES you? Are you kidding? And you haven't seen him since? Hmmm What was the "family feud" about?

I don't get this. More info would be helpful. But I'm sorry this happened. It sounds like you should get this marriage annulled, and get on with your life. This "dream man" sounds like a nut case to me. YOu would be much better of without him.

Sometimes our dreams end up as nightmares, and I think yours did, my friend. Please try to dry your tears, and try to heal. You deserve MUCH better than this. God bless & take care. Hugs, Lee

[Confusedinomicon]

Maybe it is time to find a therapist who could help you cope with your fantasy of a man you barely knew to someone who actually fits your expectations. Is there any way you can get the marriage annulled?

Wow after 1 hour of marrying you he dumped you? What on earth was he thinking? Why did he go through with marrying you? It doesn't make sense.

[Harley47]

Bless your heart...I am so sorry. I've a huge soft spot for weddings...I hate to hear of one going wrong. This though...this is...I honestly don't have a word for it.

What in God's name was his angle??? I don't understand. To have spent all that time and effort on a wedding, to have invested so much in a relationship...then to leave? An HOUR after the wedding? It baffles me utterly.

I am not familiar with Canadian law, but you SHOULD have an open and shut case for an annulment, which I recommend you do immediately. I know how hard it is, and I know what it's like for the person of your dreams to turn into the person of your nightmares, but you can't let this destroy you. Letting him ruin you is being like trapped in a cage of your own design. You HAVE to understand that this is all on him, that you couldn't have seen this coming, and that in the long run, it is better he be gone now.

Please, try to dry those tears, and know I am praying for you.

[beauflow]

that is sucky- i would use a different word but it would be bleeped out.

It sounds like there is a lot to this story---
I am a bit confused on the part of you dated but you were happy to finally meet him and marry him- were you having a long distant relationship? (Or have I read that wrong?).

People change in years (especially from 13/14 and 33 years later). It sounds like he really was not what you had expected and that you had something in your mind of which he was (he could had too), and he sounds like he has some issues (weather that be commitment or honesty issues or something else out there). Doing the whole wedding thing, and hour later saying- Nope, don't want to be in this any more, is not really a person that sounds like they wanted to really commit and/or afraid to mention it and sort of mean on top of it- But perhaps that is a misconception

Try best to take this as a learning lesson-- it probably will hurt for a while and with this being so recent-- I am not going to say "don't be angry" -- Go ahead and Be Angry- but don't let that angry corrode you on years on end-- it will need to be let go at some point, or at least dimmed. Perhaps giving a therapist a go at this would help to get past this.

Many hugs to you...

[whoknows66]

Originally Posted by Confusedinomicon

Maybe it is time to find a therapist who could help you cope with your fantasy of a man you barely knew to someone who actually fits your expectations. Is there any way you can get the marriage annulled?

I have to go through a divorce.....married for one hour.....I can't beleive this...!