[LazyLogophile]

I don't know about anyone else on this forum, but I have always struggled to fit in with the people around me. I felt like an outsider in my own family, unworthy of developing bonds with them because of perceived transgressions that I assumed made me less of a person in their eyes. Lost in my own self image, or lack thereof, I pushed family and friends away because I "just don

[Leed]

Perhaps YOU put up the wall between you because you ASSUMED they "perceived transgressions." Sometimes our minds tell us all sorts of lies, and most of the time they aren't TRUE. We are our worst enemy a good share of the time. 99% of the time, they havent "perceived" anything at all! They're wondering what is the matter with you -- why you have put up these walls between you and them.

First, why not try to get closer to them, and see what the reaction is. I would think that they'd be delighted. Give a member of your family a hug -- your mom, or dad, or sibling -- and I'll BET that it will be received with open arms if not tears!!! It's a start. See what happens, and go from there.

I seriously doubt you've done anything terribly 'wrong.' God bless and take care. Hugs, Lee

((((Lazy))))I stopped trying. As soon as I realized it was a no-win, I walked away. If you feel uncomfortable around a certain group of people - or even just one person - dont feel like you have to fit in. Either they love you, like you and accept you or they dont.

There is nothing you can do to change other people...you can only take good, kind care of yourself.

Hugs
Rose

[LazyLogophile]

I don't know what happened to the rest of my post, but it was long. The whole post was about how I have realized that fitting in has more to do with self love and acceptance than trying to please people...

I'm a bit peeved that the post was lost. Thanks for the encouragement, though. I was actually not posting to complain, I was posting to inspire others who have felt the same way I have felt to lighten up, laugh at themselves, and take steps to move forward. Maybe my connection timed out...not sure. Anyway, maybe I'll be able to find the words to post it again. :-)

((((Lazy)))) that has happened to many of us...grrrr! Glad you posted and some of it came through