What the hell do women want?

When I first confessed to a girl who seemed to like me, all she said was

'I was just joking, I wasn't serious'

and after that everything fell into pieces.



This time, I tried to not tell my feelings before I felt that she also really loved me... But maybe I dragged, and maybe I was a senseless bastard...

Because she kissed with a guy who she never met before in the bar today. In front of MY EYES.



I trrrried to tellll my self to not feel sad about it, and to feel free because that girl was too outgoing and I might not be able to handle her in relationship...


But of course I'm angry, sad, frustrated.... Because I am a human

Hi, girl over here I guess a woman is the best person to help out with this!! Okay, first of all, breathe. Just try to relax yourself, and listen to Alina, no person knows girls better, than girls themselves. I am giving you inside knowledge here!

The thing that you need to remember about women is that every single one is different. All men ask the question 'what do women want?' and none can answer it, because they all want different things. The woman you talk about probably isn't looking for anything that will last at the minute, so the fact that you told her how much you liked her probably just made her lose interest because she didn't want to hurt your feelings if she wasn't going to partake in a full relationship. Most women will want a relationship. the key is to be subtle when telling a woman that you are into her. You need to make her aware that you are there, and find her attractive, but that you don't necessarily want her to feel obligated into a relationship.

DO NOT PANIC, believe me even we understand that this is all a lot to ask, and the worst part is that the hard part isn't over. Once you actually get onto a date (which will take practice so don't feel disheartened! The right woman will find you!) then you need to maintain what I would like to call a cold interest. You are still into her, and enjoy her company, compliment her but not excessively, be yourself and just let the conversation flow. If you are nervous then before going out prepare some things you might like to know about her, talking points, so that if you get stuck in an awkward silence, YOU will be able to get things going, which shows you are making an effort and she will really appreciate it. Make sure you have these memorised, don't get out a bit of paper that will just make you seem a little too organised.

If everything goes well and your onto more dates then you can start to act more warmly, compliment her more, with regards to proximity you can stand closer to her, touch her hand, or her face and ultimately make her feel like she is the only woman you could ever care about. To do this you do not even need words. Remember that 90% percent of what you say to a person is not said with words. It is the way you look at her and act towards her. The first few dates are the hardest but once you get these over with then it all comes down to whether or not you are right for eachother. Remember that this is all how to have a PERFECT first few dates. It will take A LOT of practice, men go their whole lives never getting it right, but still end up with the girl of their dreams. Do not worry, just be yourself and try to relax. I know it is easier said than done but if you think you are getting too worried then try using a herbal remedy to calm you down.

Some girls actually find nervousness really cute because it shows how much you care about things going well, whilst others will want you to be more collected. You will meet both types of women in your lifetime, so if a date goes badly don't worry about it. I know I am not the oldest most experiences person to be giving you advice, but i am a girl, and I therefore know exactly what girls want. Trust me, it is okay to feel sad and angry and frustrated, like you said your human, and for that reason no one gets dating perfect. If you want to know anymore top secret inside knowledge then message me, I'm more than happy to help

Alina x

(((Two)))) I have not a thing to add...Alina wrote it perfectly

Haha, well, us girls need to let some guys into our heads now and again :L Thanks!

Hi thank you for your reply... though that is a lot to remember I will just keep this in mind.

Just wanted to compliment you on a very well written and comprehensive response

Lol thanks :L I am very well known for talking too much, apparently I can't stop when it comes to writing either
Alina x

Yeah I know it is, the most important things to remember is that each woman is different and you need to try to relax, because it isn't supposed to work out with every woman you like, just one of them. so don't worry!

Considering the billions of people in our world, I will add that 99.999999999999 % of the people we cross paths with in life are not going to be someone we will have a relationship with at all. Do things that you like to do, then you're more likely to enjoy life and already be happy with yourself when do find someone with common interests.

Some of us try to catch as many people as possible in order to find a 'keeper' or just get laid. Whether or not that applies to you, always be yourself. Be good to yourself. Live well and treat others well. "First do no harm" - to anyone including you. Eventually you will meet a person who connects with your heart in a way that encourages you both to take things further.

Just as your home is your sanctuary, so is your heart. Be careful who you allow into your sanctuaries. It is a privilege to share your personal space, just as it will be for someone else to share theirs with you. Try not to make memories in your sanctuaries that may cause regret and taint those things, however small, that give you happiness.

Don't worry about how long it takes. What if it takes half a lifetime or longer? Until you meet that person, just do YOU and don't waste time running around with strategies and a 'girl net' trying to figure out how to catch one :.)

For all the people who might think "bah!", I'm simply offering the benefit of hindsight gained from doing a lot of the wrong things myself.

i also think alina gave you good advice. i did want to add that it is possible the woman above kissed this stranger in the bar to get your attention and make you jealous. that may be the case if she isn't all into pursuing that guy now and you've had the sense that she is interested in you. if you do still like her then this is a great time to make a move and ask her out or tell her you like her or convey that in whatever way is most comfortable and natural for you. good luck.

I'm going to third nomination for alinaself's post. Couldn't have said it better myself. Perfection to every womans' mind.

Consider my post a fourth vote of confidence, Alina.

I swear, I took notes. Mental notes, but notes nonetheless.