Sisters!!!!!!! What to do.

I have a younger sister, almost ten years younger. I am the responsible, straight forward one, who asks for nothing from no one. She is the selfish, irresponsible liar who takes advantage of my mother and treats her like crap some of the time. She is also very loving and generous at times. A very likable person, until there is conflict, and she chooses to lie in situations for fear of hurting anyone or looking like the bad person. Which only in turns makes her look worse than if she told the truth or didn't avoid the situation. Anyways, she has lied to me again and shut me out of her life for fear of my opinion and comments, we have not spoken for over a month after I emailed her and told her a few choice things about her personality and how she conducts herself. Obviously the truth hurts. Now she has contacted me and acted like nothing was wrong and now wants me to meet her new found love, which she has known for a month and has just had him move in from WV and live at my mothers. I don't want to even meet him because things have never been discussed between her and I about our last confrontation. I just wish she would own up to her way of lieing and treating people with little respect and admit she is wrong. Now I ask you am I going nuts?????? Or should she be allowed to go through life lieing, and taking no responsibility for her actions and having my mother pick up the pieces all the time? This is really getting to me, I shake, I cry, I wonder if I'm the one with the problem. Please advise. Thanks.

Higgy: Family relationships are very interesting. I am the youngest of 3 sisters and my middle sister is a lot like your younger sister (except she does not lie). I truly belief birth order really affects people personalities. You have to make some decisions about what you want. If you confront her, you risk destroying the relationship forever because she probably won't see it your way. However, you will be being honest and if she does understand, your relationship may improve tremendously. If you do confront her, you need to be careful how you phrase things. Don't start accusing and blaming her. You may want to really think about what you will say. But, you really need to think about what you want out of this situation. Chances are she is not going to change. You may either have to accept her as she is or just move on and realize that you will never have the relationship you want with her. I have chosen not to confront my older sister as I do not see what good will come from it. Good luck.