sorry

wi_fighter · May 22, 2006, 01:21 AM

If I haven't been supportive enough, if I haven't picked up on people's needs for support, if I've been too self absorbed.

I originally came to PC to feel not so alone and start to feel better. It worked, but I've chosen to stick around even though support isn't what I need at the moment. Maybe that sends the wrong signal - that since I need support I'm just as capable of offering it. Or that since I don't need support, I have more energy to put into paying back the support I got when I needed it.

Some people are naturals at giving support, of knowing just what to say or do at the right time. I'm not one of those people, and it bothers some.

I've been quiet lately. I have to focus on my job. I can't be in here keeping up with everyone's trials in the hopes that I'll suddenly be able to come up with the magic answer, because I know that's not something I'm capable of. I don't want to feel bad that I'm not a good enough supporter, and right now I do....feel bad. Kind of defeats the purpose of the site.

May 22, 2006, 02:07 AM

(((((wi_fighter)))))

Don't feel bad. You're great!

bebop · May 22, 2006, 02:14 AM

((((wi))))

Sabrina · May 22, 2006, 02:28 AM

Take all the time you need. Your friends will always be here.

Fuzzybear · May 22, 2006, 02:28 AM

(((((( wi_fighter ))))))

Fuzzybear · May 22, 2006, 03:08 AM

PS

I think you are cool and I don't feel that I am a natural at giving support either although I try! (I make mistakes! sorry

..)

I have a green stuffed frog with a wonky smile and the words "Nobody's Perfect sorry

" on it.. I took it into therapy once. It fits everyone here I think! sorry

Rhapsody · May 22, 2006, 08:18 AM

Hang in there....................... YOU can and will make it out of this.

sorry

LoVe,
Rhapsody - sorry

wi_fighter · May 23, 2006, 09:52 AM

I guess I think about myself too much and don't acknowledge others enough. sorry

I'm not a good enough friend for some people. If I don't know what to say, I start rambling about insignificant daily happenings. sorry

mrb020377 · May 23, 2006, 11:05 AM

(((((((((((wi_fighter)))))))))))))))

everyone here at PC has a different reason for being here. Not everyone can offer support. Not everyone is good at handling support. It doesnt matter to me, I love each and every one of you guys here.. That is what makes PC great, we all are like a different kind of vegetable in a big pot of stew, each complimenting the other.
No worries ok?

sorry

wi_fighter · May 23, 2006, 11:17 AM

Thanks Melly. sorry

I said I wouldn't let this bother me, but it is.

mrb020377 · May 23, 2006, 11:27 AM

FUZZYBEAR... YOU HAVE A BIG GREEN STUFFED FROG???????????? I love frogs!!!!

( sorry off topic)

Mystry · May 23, 2006, 12:13 PM

Wi-fight...baby...booby...I too find that I take an aweful lot of support without giving back that much and yes it bothers me to no end...but who knows how many lives you've touched just from one gift of support...it's like ripples in the ocean my friend...the effects are felt all across the world...so don't feel bad about not being able to offer support and what is wrong with just babbling about everyday things...absolutely nothing...

wi_fighter · May 23, 2006, 12:20 PM

I didn't think there was anything wrong with it either, but friendship is supposed to be give and take, right?

I don't know. I'm confused. I was starting to get over feeling that I'm a bad person and not a good enough friend, and lately I've been getting some feedback that's reinforcing those bad feelings all over again. sorry

Mystry · May 23, 2006, 12:36 PM

well my friend feed back of that nature doesn't come from friends so...imo...in one ear and out the other...there will always be someone there to try to drag you down Wi-fighter...it really has nothing to do with you and everything to do with them...believe me I know what it's like to be shot down time and time again but I realized that I make myself sick listening to people who really were only trying to make themselves feel better by sticking a pin in my balloon...people who really care about you don't do things like that Wi-fighter...they add to your balloon more good air and ...lol...some even add hot air but either way your balloon goes up and up...don't let the words of some people get you down my friend...just feel sorry for them and know that they have the problem not you...